How To Deal With Emotional Abuse By A Psychotherapist

By Ines Flores


Emotional or physical abuse by therapists is depressing especially considering the breach of trust. Specifically, emotional abuse by a psychotherapist is considered a grave professional offense. The most common manifestation is when a therapist engages in a manner that is against your interest. It means he has taken advantage of your vulnerability to exploit, manipulate and control you through actions that are beyond stipulated professional boundaries.

The first signs of violation include the development of a dual relationship in the process of therapy. This means that you begin to relate beyond professional ethics and limits. Such a relationship takes the form of conversations, meetings and contact. The risk is as high in men as it is in women and affects adults as much as it affects children. It is difficult to detect because of the trust that exists between most therapists and patients.

Men are abused by male therapists in the same way that women are abused by female therapist. This means that everyone, regardless of his gender or age is vulnerable. The probability of violation escalating into physical abuse is real especially if quick action is not taken. The most common form of physical violation is engaging in sexual acts.

Every patient should understand the procedure used for the sake of safety. The idea is to help you identify if a particular session has gone beyond the norm. Your gut feelings will tell you when there is a problem. Do not ignore your instincts. Experts suggest that you change your therapist as early as possible if you sense danger. Consult another therapist for a second opinion if you have doubts with the current one.

Some of the behaviors that indicate that things are not right include discussions about the conditions of other clients, personal life and intrusive or uncomfortable topics. Therapy should not make you to feel hurt in whichever way. Any hurt should cause you to quit at the earliest opportunity.

Therapists who violate their clients degrade, intimidate, humiliate and shame them. The first sessions should provide healing and reprieve. Any other feeling should be a sign of danger. If the therapist begins to make suggestive comments or engages in intrusive behavior, you are advised to take immediate action. Do not entertain hugging, winking, kissing or sexual contact with any therapist.

It is violating to be pressurized into making a decision or being rushed into one. Observe the language that is used during meetings, emails, calls and text message. It should remain official alongside meeting hours and venues. A therapist who compliments you as being sexy or beautiful is being unethical and therefore abusive.

To prevent abuse, maintain professional distance and space at all times. Therapists exploit your vulnerability by making you feel as though the person is more important than the services he or she is offering. Avoid the feeling of guilt when you miss a session with a good reason. All therapy sessions and discussions should center on your well being and not other personal issues.

In case of abuse, talk to your spouse, family, parent or close friend. There are organizations offering help to victims of therapy abuse. The internet has a number of websites with incredible resources. Beyond seeking legal redress, contact the professional body that licenses therapists to ensure that others are not violated as well.




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