One of my greatest lessons I learned during my training life coach was about to change. When you decide to make a change in your life - make the change of happiness, not be happy . Now when I heard this, I thought it was ridiculous. I thought the only reason anyone ever made the change because they are unhappy with it. I could not really understand if I was happy with what was happening to make changes .
But this is the trap that we all tend to fall into - this change once this happens is that my life will get better and I 'll be happy. It is common to believe that something outside of us will make you happy thing .
Here are some classics:
When I lose weight ( usually attached to a number ), then I 'll be happy
When I meet my soul mate or perfect partner, then I'll be happy
When I find a great job, I'll be happy
When I make more money, then I'll be happy
When I succeed or does, I'll be happy
When I retire and rest , I'll be happy
The list goes on and on. We provide believe that this is the true body size / shape , the perfect job , more money , good person - that is what will make us happy. And if we can make the change and then we'll finally be happy.
The truth is that our thoughts are what makes us happy. We can choose to think thoughts that make us happy now without changing ( thing , person , work, etc. ) or we can choose to have thoughts that make us happy after the change took place. Anyway , we always have a choice - we are the ones who choose to delay or not to delay our happiness.
However, it still boggles my mind to make changes only when I 'm already happy. But I found a compelling reason why we would do it. It trains the mind to know that this is not something outside of us or the "change" that makes us happy - is to choose our thoughts allows us to be in control of our emotions. The best part is that you learn that you can be happy at any time you want, wherever you are. Make a change of happiness leads to greater happiness . And in the end it is ultimately what you're really after anyway - to feel happy .
Carl Rauch is a life coach. His passion is to help Chiks unconventional learn to live the extraordinary step guide to women who want to be at this time of life.
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