How to Leverage Your Happiness and Grow

Happynomics is hot. And the king of a bitsy, sluggish Himalayan kingdom is the guy responsible.
In 1972, he gave traditional economics a kick in the teeth when he declared that "gross national happiness"--not gross national product--would be the new (and only!) measuring stick for his country's success. Fast forward four decades, and you've got yourself the second fastest-growing economy in the world: the nation of Bhutan. But not everyone is clapping.

Happiness as a Habit

Health and Happiness are the two things that most people will tell you they desire most. Ask a parent what they want most for their child and they will almost always say, "I really don't care, as long as they are healthy and happy." Sometimes people say they want love, success or wealth, but when asked why, they think for a moment and then say because these things would make them happy.

Usually people desire health above all else but only when they feel that it is threatened. People rarely think about health when they are young, fit, pain and disease free.

The single most sought after life experience is happiness.

If you made a list of the things you wished to improve in your life and then added notes alongside each item, detailing the amount of time and effort you were putting into each one, you would be greatly surprised at the lack of logic and or commitment you are applying to increasing or maintaining happiness. You may have happiness as the thing you most desire but your notes may reveal you spend 50 hours a week at your career, 10 hours housekeeping and 20 hours watching T.V. Next to the word 'Happiness' you may find, '10 minutes' or more likely, 'No time at all'.

Have you ever even stopped to think about what it is that makes you happy? Has it ever dawned on you to actively pursue happiness? Most of us simply consider happiness to be a random act that catches us fleetingly and disappears all too soon.

Happiness has fascinated me my entire life, I constantly seek it and play with it. I'm getting better at prolonging it and faster at recognizing it.

Honestly, sometimes I just sit and focus on happiness until, "I bring it on".

It takes a little concentration, sometimes some memory and sometimes imagination. Practise and focus have resulted in my ability to simply decide to be happy and I remind myself to do this often. I used to wait and be surprised and delighted when something caused me to be happy until I realized I could actually get happiness without an event or situation.

When happiness comes accidentally it entices us to, "be in the moment". Most of us are mentally in a perpetual state of being in the past or future most of the time. In happiness, we pull our attention into the present moment to fully experience this great feeling. (Pain also has this ability.) I mention this, as I know that the most essential requirement for happiness is to practise, 'Living in the present moment'.

Happiness is a present moment experience.

A couple of my other favourite quotes, which illustrate this point, are:
Life is what happens while your busy making other plans. (John Lennon)
This is not a dress rehearsal - This is your life.

These days will one day become the good old days.

Between the wanting and the getting - Is the living.

We all wait for happy events to come and find us or we sometimes actively seek out things that we believe will bring us happiness. Winning money, buying a big-ticket item, getting married, having a child, a holiday, a promotion or finding a new lover are usually considered to be happy events. Many of us spend a great amount of time, effort and money actively pursuing these things.

Unfortunately these things come with a 'Happiness expiry date'.

Ironically, we often find our happiness list reverses on us at a later date. We then hear, "I'll be happy when my divorce comes through, when I retire, when the kids leave home." The car you once dreamed about owning is now just a costly mode of transport. Your bride has become your witch and your home is cluttered with things you long forgot you even possess.

Happiness is not about having - Happiness is about being.

We have all heard it before but we must constantly remind our selves, 'Happiness comes from within'.
Happiness is internally generated not externally manufactured.

Happiness is not a tonic with a recipe; I cannot give you a list of things to do to guarantee your happiness. Some people seem to never be happy, no matter what and yet other people are just filled with joy for the simplest reasons. Most of the time I am happy for no particular reason at all other than the fact that I choose to be.

There are two basic principles that I do consider to be imperative;

One; Is actively pursue, maintain, expand and share happiness.

Two; Is minimize, eliminate and repel unhappiness.

The most important aspect of happiness is to choose what thoughts you will entertain and which thoughts you will dismiss.

Eliminate what you hate.
This is going to sound a little obvious but it's amazing when you get down to it, just how much grief you may be hanging onto without ever giving it any serious thought at all. "How much of your time, emotion and energy are you wasting on maintaining things that make you unhappy?"

Some people spend their entire working life is jobs that are almost soul destroying. Many people stay in relationships that are physically, mentally and emotionally draining. We may have friends, colleagues, neighbours or relatives that simply, 'drive us crazy' and yet we maintain them. Some people hold on to addictions or habits that time and again bring about the same destructive outcome and yet they still go around and around repeating the cycle over and over. If you are serious about increasing your happiness level you must first define what makes you unhappy and take action to eliminate it.

Being unhappy robs us of our health by depleting our energy.
Love and happiness are the highest and lightest forms of energy. This higher, lighter form of energy is self-generating. Unhappiness robs us of energy and if left unchecked will lead to depression and tiredness. Your energy level is a great way to measure your happiness or your stress level. It is also gives you an accurate indication of your health in general. Happiness and love will fill you with energy and a good supply of energy will bring you more joy.

If it brings your Grief - Make it Brief.
Where is your focus and what is your perception? Almost every terrible thing that ever happened to you only happened in your imagination. Just think back over the last year and remind yourself of the things that had you tossing and turning in bed at night. Try and recall all the things that really had you worried, scared or upset.

How many actually happened? And of the ones that did happen, how many were anywhere near as bad as you had imagined?

Stepping up and stepping out of our comfort zones.
You know the saying, "One door closes and another door opens." I've often been very frustrated with this, as I wondered, "Why doesn't the new door ever open before the old door closes?" It seems to me that more often than not, my doors close long before the new doors open and I have spend a long time being panicked in corridors.

It's scary! Life gives us many situations in which we lose our comfort zone long before our new life is revealed to us. Ah, life in limbo! We handle it badly, but a fact of life it is. In reinventing yourself you are going to have to accept that limbo is not only a high probability but you are also going to have to actively take yourself there deliberately.

I have often thought of my life pushing me up an arduous mountain and leaving me with no way of going back, I imagine fire moving swiftly behind me, threatening me and pushing me forward. When I reach the top of the mountain I realize I must jump or be engulfed by the fire. The terror of believing I will either be burned to death or smashed against the rocks at the bottom of the mountain has me completely immobilized.
Then somewhere in the back of my mind I hear a voice, "Jump, you can fly!"

If you want small, safe changes to occur in your life then the effort and risk will not be so frightening but if you really wish to "Step out and step up" You had better accept that you will need to be Bold and Brave. You will never fly if you won't leave the ground.

Sonya Green West Australian Author and Personal Growth workshop facilitator. Writer and producer of guided meditations and webmaster of http://www.reinventingmyself.com

The Psychology of Happiness

A lot has been written about happiness and from psychology to philosophy, different theories of happiness have focused on issues of satisfaction, contentment, and even spiritual liberation. But happiness is one of the most subjective mental states and several factors could be at play when a person is truly happy. Whereas anger or fear could be defined with physical reactions and certain behavioural patterns, this is not so for happiness and that is how happiness is extremely subjective. For example one bar of chocolate could make one child happy whereas another child would want two chocolate bars to feel truly happy.
So why do we feel happy? Happiness is usually associated with some kind of gain or attainment. When we achieve or attain something, we feel satisfied and this triggers happiness. The attainment does not have to be material, it could very well be spiritual. It could even be bodily and physical, just as an insomniac person would feel happy after a good night's sleep. So, in defining happiness we have to locate a specific material, spiritual or physical gain or attainment and the contentment arising as a result of this attainment. The question would arise whether it is possible to be happy without any attainment. I would say that it is not possible to happy without attaining something and this attainment does not have to be immediate and could be related any past achievement. Now, you could say that you do know someone who is always happy without any specific reason. It's that you haven't found out the reason for his happiness. He may be a simple man with simple needs and happy after a warm bath or a nice meal, so that's still some attainment. So, happiness always involves some attainment or need fulfilment, however small or big that is.
Psychologists have used several models including bio psychosocial and PERMA models to explain happiness suggesting that happiness is attained when our biological, psychological and sociological needs are met or when there is pleasure (bodily for instance), engagement (in some activity for instance), relationships, meaning (for instance purpose of life) and accomplishments. These models suggest that happiness involves something deeper than just our fleeting pleasures. I would differ and suggest that happiness being extremely subjective, some people may just be happy attaining pleasures whereas some others would seek meaning or possibly accomplishments and relationships. So the level or type of attainment that makes one happy would vary from one person to another.
Thus some people would be happy when their basic needs are fulfilled whereas some others would not be happy even after significant professional accomplishments as they may be expecting some other level or kind of achievement. Thus happiness largely depends on our subjective understanding of what it means to be happy. Since happiness is so subjective it cannot be strictly placed within models or frameworks although the underlying common factor that makes people happy is always some kind of attainment, gain or need fulfilment.
The next level of analysis would be whether happiness could be categorized to generalized happiness or a continued happy state of mind and specific happiness for attaining one of the specific pleasures or goals. I would suggest that there cannot be a generalized state of happiness without a specific reason. A seemingly happy person may not be genuinely happy or may be genuinely happy as he may have attained an exalted spiritual state or accumulated substantial wealth. So again as we see a continued state of happiness could also be explained with attainment.
The need fulfilment or attainment that triggers happiness could be biological such as bodily pleasures as when we quench our thirst, satisfy physical desires etc. The attainment could be social when we form relationships and feel happy or simply talk to strangers at a large event or remain engaged in social activity, or the attainment could be spiritual when we seek and even find some kind of spiritual liberation. The attainment or need fulfilment could be psychological when our love needs are fulfilled or when we reach our goals or fulfil our ambitions. The biological, psychological, social and spiritual aspects of attainment could provide happiness according to their needs. Thus happiness is intricately tied to our specific needs although these needs could be interrelated as for example the need for status or power could be both social and psychological.
Thus we distinguish the factors that could lead to happiness
1. Biological (bodily pleasures, basic needs)
2. Social (status, relationships, social activity and engagement)
3. Psychological (emotional, love, friendship, personal accomplishments)
4. Spiritual (finding meaning and purpose, transpersonal needs)
There could be several reactions to happiness and this could range from smiling to engaging in rigorous physical activity as happiness could mean a sudden surge in energy levels. People who engage in physical activity are more likely to be happy due to improved blood circulation and general good health. However happiness being an extremely subjective emotional state, in order to feel genuinely happy, some achievement in terms of long term goals such as love or conjugal life, wealth, spiritual liberation, or professional achievement could help a person to attain a continued happy state of mind. This is the prolonged state of happiness that has causes similar to any transient state of happiness although the effects could be long lasting. The people who have a prolonged state of happiness are generally lively, sporty, fun loving and optimistic. A child may show a prolonged state of happiness when adequate care and love are provided by their parents or carers. However transient states of happiness are more common as prolonged states of happiness could be interrupted by adverse life events so momentary joys and pleasures provide us with reassurance to accept and embrace life.
From a more psychoanalytic point of view, happiness would be related to desire, libido, our energy levels and even the defense mechanisms that we unconsciously use to vent out our frustration and thus remain happy or calm. Happiness would naturally raise our libidinal levels and make us more energetic and high levels of energy could in turn make us happy, so this process is cyclical. Several scientific studies have shown that happiness is directly related to our levels of energy.
Considering defense mechanisms, psychoanalysis could in a way suggest that happiness is actually acting out or reaction formation when we show certain reactions that may be completely opposite to what we feel. For example in reaction formation we may show happiness, when in reality we are sad or depressed. Although genuine happiness could be explained with psychoanalysis as well, as for example, an artist is genuinely happy when he can sublimate his desires to socially acceptable forms of expression through his creativity. A sportsman is genuinely happy when he can channel his aggressive or sexual desires through sport or rigorous activity. So these defense mechanisms in psychoanalysis could actually produce genuine happiness in people because of the inherent survival and coping strategies involved in these defenses.
Finally, happiness being a state of mind would be entirely subjective and would evoke extreme subjective reactions. For instance, someone laughs on hearing a joke and feel happy about it and someone else would be sarcastic or may not feel the same level of excitement. Whereas anger and other emotions could be explained in terms of physical responses, happiness usually does not have defined physical responses although there is a general positive feeling of well being and the physical responses could vary considerably. As I have stated on the psychology of emotions, it would be necessary to determine the components of feeling and bodily reaction for every emotion including happiness and psychology has an extensive research project to consider for the future.

Reflections in Psychology - Part I - by Saberi Roy (2009)
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Reflections in Psychology - Part II - by Saberi Roy (2011)
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Making Positive Changes In Your Life

Happiness is a satisfied feeling of being content. How many people do you know that are in that state? Most people are always searching for the one thing that will make them happy. Comments like when I get out of college, I'll be happy or when I buy my BMW, I'll be happy or when I win the lottery, I'll be happy.

Accumulation of physical objects is not the prerequisite of being happy. Some of the richest people in the world who appear to have everything one could desire are not happy people. True happiness is a state of mind. Getting to that state of mind may be more difficult to achieve.

The first step is to appreciate all that you do have in your life and not focus on the items you are lacking. Try to surround yourself with positive energy such as happy people, funny movies, upbeat music and positive reading material. We don't need to expose ourselves to negative movies and television. Negative people drain the positive energy from you so it's best to avoid these individuals when you can. You are in charge of your life.

You should take very seriously everything that you consume and that means not just watching everything you expose yourself to but those things that you eat, drink, and inhale. It is important to the body to attain balance and harmony and a body that is being exposed to toxins regularly will not be the positive temple that you are looking for to fill with positive messages.

Mental positive thoughts will manifest into positive physical changes that will benefit you throughout your life. You can picture positive things happening in your mind and continue to maintain those thoughts and soon the thoughts become actions and what you seek will begin to materialize. Accomplishments begin as a conquering thought within your mind. If you think it, you can achieve it

Motivational speakers are the first that will attest to the mind as being the most powerful tool in your arsenal. These speakers encourage people to think they can accomplish anything they set their minds to. It is important to teach our youth this concept at an early age. If one puts their mind to achieving something not many obstacles will discourage them from seeking out the goals they desire.

How to Find Happiness - 5 Simple Techniques

It would seem fair and accurate to say that a common 'quest' shared by many would be how to find happiness in our daily lives. Authentic happiness may be defined by different people in different ways but ultimately it comes down to an inner peace we feel. It therefore stands to reason that the key to happiness is finding that inner peace which brings us to our discussion here today. What is it we can do to or how is it we can act that will help bring happiness, or more of it, into our lives?

Here are 5 simple techniques you can immediately use with little effort that will help put 'pep in your step' and bring happiness into your life.

Be Grateful

It is amazing how showing a little gratitude can make your insides feel so warm and fuzzy. Besides the fact that it feels nice to be nice these actions bring out the best in others also. The result is they respond to you in the same fashion and in the end this can bring happiness to everybody involved.

Also by giving thanks it consciously makes you aware that others are acting kindly towards you so you therefore appreciate it more.

Be Optimistic

If you stop and consider how much influence each one of us has over our own destiny there is no reason not to have hope. Possessing hope or optimism gives you more energy and a certain sense of excitement about the way things 'can' be. This helps to 'lighten' your mood and can bring happiness to those around you.

Perform Random Acts of Kindness

Much like giving thanks being helpful to others without expectations of reward or reciprocation makes you feel good about yourself. The resulting reactions you get from the people who you helped only serve to make you feel even better.

Emphasize Your Strengths

So you got some weaknesses, big deal, everybody does too. Learn to put more emphasis on the strengths you posses whether it is a sense of humor being a good listener or something else. Using your strengths gives you more confidence and likely gets a better reaction from others both of which tend to make you feel better about yourself.

Count Your Blessings

Look around you and see others that have various challenges such as physical, financial or emotional in nature and appreciate what you have and who you are. No matter what the situation may be there is ALWAYS somebody who has it tougher than you! Life is only as bad as you 'perceive' it to be.

With lifestyles that seem to be consumed by work and stress it is no wonder that many question how to find happiness in their own lives. Not the happiness you may experience when leaving work for the day or perhaps a long weekend but true authentic happiness that stress can NOT erase. These 5 techniques reviewed here today can quickly establish that sense of 'well being' to help make you feel a more 'positive connection' with your own life. Stimulating this sense of inner peace is the key to happiness and comes with giving thanks for what it is we ALREADY have.

The Art Of Happiness- Authentic Tips

Would you like to be 100% happier than you are now? How about 1,000% happier? What stands between you and having greater happiness now? Read on to see how you can discover the happiness you're looking for in your life. It's just one step away.

Have you ever noticed how often people rely on others in their pursuit of happiness? How they expect someone else to make them happy? You might hear people say things like: "If only he would be nicer." "Didn't she know that would hurt my feelings?" "I would be happy if he would only talk to me more."
When people have this idea in their head they can spend a lot of time figuring out how to fix or change other people.

What's the trouble if you try this strategy? Not only do the other people feel irritated, they often get defensive at your attempt to "FIX" them. And it leaves you powerless. If THEY don't change, YOU can't be happy.
But even more important is that, since what you focus your attention on grows, focusing on what you don't like will cause it to become what you notice most in your life.

Say, for example, when your significant other comes home they often leave a trail with their clothes, bags, books, whatever, strewn throughout the house. It drives you nuts! Every time you look at the residue of stuff they leave behind them, you feel irritated.

This has gone on for so long that now you notice every little piece of debris, everywhere you look, all the time.

Where you place your attention increases.

Perhaps you say something like this to them: "Can't you pick up after yourself? You are such a slob."
It's probably not the first time you've talked about the clothes on the floor. And probably not much has changed since that first time. So what happens next?

The person leaving the clothes around probably gets annoyed at being told what to do. You lose hope that things will ever change. And you focus more and more on what you don't enjoy about your partner.
Remember, what you focus your attention on grows!

So here it is, the step that will move you closer to being happier than ever before: Develop YOUR ability to focus your attention on what you ENJOY.

Maybe this sounds too simple. But ask yourself: "What would my day be like if I started and ended it by simply noticing or remembering everything that I enjoy in my life?"

Remember, what you focus your attention on grows. Focus on what you enjoy - it's quite simply the fastest, easiest step you can take to start finding happiness in every moment.

Try this. Pretend that you have an emotional bank account. Every one of your thoughts makes a deposit. This means that if you're constantly depositing painful memories in your emotional bank account, they will grow and grow.

Those painful memories will multiply just like in regular bank account giving interest. What's this? It's compounding the effect of thoughts like: "What a slob!" with more thoughts like: "She doesn't care about me." or "He's the most selfish person I've ever met."

Now, do you feel happy?

Take each day and look for things you are grateful for and really bring you true pleasure.

Your significant other comes into the house and smiles. Is that something to be thankful for? They ask you if you would like a cup of tea. Is that something to be thankful for? You see them put something away, without being asked. Is that something to be thankful for?

Now imagine depositing these memories in your emotional bank account, day after day. And compound them with as many other thankful, grateful thoughts as you can so they grow and grow. "I love it when he remember I like milk in my coffee; he's so considerate sometimes." "I'm so glad we like doing things together." "We just have so much in common; she is so much fun to be with"

How do you feel now?

Happy or sad, good or bad, pleasure or pain - authentic happiness is up to you. Focus on what you enjoy. Enjoy being thankful. It's something anyone can do, even you.

What you focus your attention on will grow. You do have an emotional bank account so start saving your happiness up today. With a bank-full of thankful, you'll be a master at the art of "having happiness now."

What Really Creates Happiness?

 

Some people believe that achieving happiness is the purpose of life, yet the pursuit of happiness often leads to unhappiness. This is because happiness is actually a consequence of a different life purpose – the pursuit of evolving our souls in our ability to love ourselves and others.

When achieving happiness is your goal, you might pursue this in three different ways:

1) You might pursue momentary pleasure, believing that your happiness is the same as pleasure. When this is your belief, you might pursue happiness through substances such as alcohol, drugs, nicotine, or food. Or you might pursue happiness through activities such as sex, spending or gambling.

2) If you believe that your happiness is attached to money and the outcome of things regarding money, you might pursue control over outcomes through spending most of your time working, as well as accumulating and managing money.

3) If you believe that your happiness is attached to people, you might pursue control over getting love, approval, attention, admiration, or acknowledgement.

While momentary pleasure feels good, it is just momentary. Which means that you need to keep on doing whatever you believe will bring you happiness, over and over. This is what creates addictions – the pursuit of what you believe will avoid pain and bring pleasure. The problem is that none of these pursuits bring deep and abiding happiness, because their affects are always momentary.

True happiness is not the result of DOING, but of a way of BEING. Rather than being a result of the momentary pleasures of the outside world, it is the result of your intention to evolve daily as a loving human being.

What does this mean?
This means that ongoing happiness is the result of choosing the spiritual path of kindness, compassion, understanding, and acceptance.

Yet it is not enough to express kindness and compassion toward others. Many have tried this and still end up feeling empty and angry when the deep happiness they desire continues to elude them.

The path toward happiness starts with opening to learning about what is most loving and compassionate toward YOURSELF. You can have all the things that people believe will bring happiness – money, a good relationship, a family, work you enjoy – yet if you are critical and judgmental toward yourself instead of accepting and compassionate with yourself, you will not feel happy.

Imagine a child who seemingly has everything – tons of toys, the best schools, great vacations, lots of friends. But imagine that this child has parents who ignore him or her, or who are very critical, judgmental and controlling of him or her. This child will not be happy, no matter how many external things he or she has.

Imagine that this child is you – the feelings within you. How are you treating this child? How do you treat your feelings? Do you ignore your feelings and cover them over with substance or process addictions? Are you judgmental of yourself, constantly telling yourself that you are not good enough, that you are inadequate in some way?Ignoring yourself or judging yourself will always lead to unhappiness, so matter how much you have in the external world or how loving you are to others. Until you decide to start treating yourself the way you want others to treat you, deep and abiding happiness will elude you. As long as you are treating yourself the way your parents may have treated you or themselves, you will continue to feel the emptiness and aloneness that comes from self-abandonment.

If you want to experience true happiness, then start to pay attention to your own feelings with a deep desire to learn about what you are doing or not doing that is causing your pain and unhappiness. Happiness will be the natural consequence of your willingness to take full, 100% responsibility for your own feelings, and learn about and take action regarding what truly brings you joy.

Happiness at Work? Is it Possible? Yes, if You Know the Nuances of Happiness

Do you ever feel lethargic and lost at work? Do you ever feel vulnerable and powerless, like a tiny cog in a huge machine? Do you wish that you could be truly happy at work?

“Happiness at work is elusive,” says psychiatrist Dr. Kerry J. Sulkowicz. Sulkowicz teaches that a better goal is to enjoy your work and strive for high performance. That is more realistic. Why? Happiness is complex. It is difficult to sustain for long periods of time. It often ebbs and flows with the people around you and ultimately, happiness must be generated from within.

In your quest for happiness at work, it is important to understand root causes. When identified, root causes give you clues to why you feel vulnerable and powerless. I learned this when I worked in a corporation where I was expected to be merely a puppet, doing exactly what the manager said and acting precisely when he pulled my strings.

The behavior of my manager was my root cause for unhappiness as he drained essential life force from me but I displaced my anger on my family and work associates. Seeing my relationships suffer, I had to step back and analyze why I was so unhappy. As I consciously looked at my feelings and emotions, I realized that the root cause of my anger was a manager who did not allow me to collaborate, have input, think through and solve problems related to my work.

Once I identified, admitted to myself, and accepted this root cause of my unhappiness, my annoyance and irritation subsided. I was no longer a victim, but had a sense of power coming from my ability to cope with negative feelings. By insulating myself mentally and emotionally from the behaviors of my manager, I returned to a pleasant person. I restored my good relationships with friends and family, regained my mental energy, and climbed on top of my workload.

The ups and downs of work life are inevitable. Work is work! Only in Cinderella fairy tales is work free from pressure, demands, and anxiety. Believing you are entitled to happiness at work every hour of the day makes you neurotic and causes your mental state to go up and down like a yo-yo.

Next time you feel unhappy and lethargic at work, look for the root cause which may not be your manager but an overdue project or an assignment just out of your skill set. Stabilize your identity as a valuable cog in organizational progress, believe in your inner power to manage your mental and emotional energy, and then focus on consistent and excellent results.

It is possible to find happiness at work when you understand the subtle nuances of creating a mental and emotional environment where happiness can thrive within.

A New Definition of Happiness

THE PURSUIT OF HAPPINESS
Happiness.  It’s a word we hear about all the time.  It’s something that we work for, that we work to achieve.  Yet day by day we seem no closer to attaining it.  Happiness eludes us.

Yes, we’ve had moments when we felt happy.  Perhaps it was a wedding.  Or a birth of a child.  Or it was that other night, when we were hanging out with friends, or spending time with family.  In those moments, we felt happy, truly, deeply happy.  Transcendent almost.

And then it fades.  Darkness ensues.  The happiness is gone.  In its place will often be a vacuum. 

We ask, “What’s the point?”  If we have the inalienable right to pursue happiness, then what is the point if we don’t feel like we can ever reach it, or achieve it?  That which we want more than anything, to be happy, seems to be something that we can’t have.

Maybe if we had more money!  That’s really all we need!  Or maybe it’s that brand spankin’ new 3D-LED HD TV.  A new car?  Yes, that’s it!

No, no it’s not money or things we want, but we want a relationship.  A man or woman who will complete us – that will make us happy!  If we’re in a relationship – if only we weren’t in the relationship! 

But then we get those things and after a brief honeymoon we’re back where we started. 

Empty.  Sad.  So we try to think of other things.  And the cycle continues.

It seems we can’t be happy.  So what do we do? 

We employ distraction.  We watch TV (obsessively) to distract ourselves from our lives so we don’t have to think about how miserable we are or how miserable the world is.  We drink.  We smoke.  We eat.  We check our phones every thirty seconds. 

We take subconscious shortcuts to happiness.  Yet we never seem to be any happier, if anything, the shortcuts seem to be part of the problem.  Then we become addicted to the distractions and we are even more unhappy.  Turn on the 11:00 news – you know what I mean.  The world sucks, so how can we be happy anyway?

A NEW DEFINITION OF HAPPINESS
After spending the last paragraphs utterly depressed it’s time to step away from the ledge.  Because we can be happy.  But in order to be happy we have to unlearn everything we’ve ever thought about or even lived about happiness.

First – what happiness ISN’T.

Happiness is not an endpoint. 

If our goal is to achieve happiness then we will never be happy.
Yes, read that again. 

Happiness is not the goal.  The pursuit of happiness is an illusion.  If we pursue happiness we will never reach it.

Until now we’ve thought about happiness as the destination.  It’s not.

“Wait, what are you talking about?” 

We have been told from everyone – parents, teachers, politicians, tv personalities, that the goal of our lives is to achieve happiness.  It’s in the Declaration of Independence!  Can Thomas Jefferson be wrong?

Yes, it’s everywhere.  We are told time and time again that we must pursue happiness.  We are told the goal of our lives is to be happy.

Yet how many of us are happy?  Not many.  Because we cannot pursue happiness.  Let me rephrase, we can pursue happiness if we wish, but we’ll never get there.  Our efforts will be futile.  We know this because we have lived this.  We are living this.

It’s time for us to develop a new concept of happiness.  It’s time for us to redefine happiness because our current definition is just not working.  No – it’s worse than that.  Our current definition, of happiness as our goal/destination is simply wrong.

So what is happiness? 

Happiness is a result.  

Happiness is what results when we are on the path we instinctually know that we should be on. 

Happiness is what results when we are growing, when we are expanding, when we are developing.
Happiness is not something we can do, or achieve.  It’s a result.  It’s a byproduct.  When we are growing, when we are expanding, the result will be happiness.

We will never achieve happiness if our goal is happiness. 

Our goal must be one of expansion, growth, development.  While we are working toward that goal, we will be happy. 

Happiness is not about smiling.  It isn’t about the expression of joy on the face.  We might be toiling harder than we have ever toiled before.  The expressions on our faces might be one of pain, contempt.  But inside we will be singing because we are working on ourselves and developing and growing.  The result is happiness. 

Therefore, the key, the key for you to be thinking about right now is – are you on the right path?  Are you learning?  Are you growing?  Are you developing?  Because when you can honestly answer “Yes” to those questions, then you will be on your journey, and the result will be happiness.

How to Attract Happiness

I wonder whether you noticed an article by the columnist David Brooks in the New York Times entitled the "Sandra Bullock Trade". It certainly caught my eye as it focuses upon the interactions between personal and professional success with levels of happiness.

Over the last few decades much research has been carried out with regards to the science of happiness. A state of happiness is after all what we would all wish to experience. There are many different and varied goals which we might pursue, but ultimately the thing which we seek through any of these diverse routes is happiness.

One of the many pieces of research has identified that to achieve professional success does not necessarily mean that you will achieve corresponding levels of happiness. But success in your personal life, in your marriage or close relationships, does provide a good indication of happiness. More money might lead you to greater happiness, but not necessarily so; a good relationship is far more likely to pave the way to happiness (and also longevity, but that is another story).

So why are so many more people in this day and age apparently so fixated upon their careers and monetary goals, seemingly oblivious to the potential negative impact upon their relationships? It seems that we are searching for happiness in the wrong places and perhaps it is time for many of us to take a step back and view our lives from a different angle.

This can however be hard to do when we live in a society where our self confidence, self image and sense of achievement is often measured by what we do as opposed to who we really are. Our sense of identity can become blurred and indistinct as our professional persona grows larger and our inner self takes a back seat. As time goes by it becomes easier to live with that persona as it becomes more familiar to us, and frequently shields us from our inner fears and doubts.

Many of us reach a point where we do not want to let go of either the trappings of a successful career or the persona of that successful professional image. But if it is not making you happy or, worse still, standing in the way of your happiness, then it is time for a change. When one reaches such an insight, it becomes important to strip away a few of those superficial layers and look instead at ones inner reality.

Hypnosis is very helpful in this process as it allows you to access your subconscious mind, the part where instinctive thoughts and behaviors are stored. In effect, hypnosis allows you to take a step back and see things from a different angle. Hypnosis helps you to relax in the moment and to experience happiness at the same time.

We know from research findings that to be in a good close relationship is a better indicator of happiness than anything else. Thus the most important thing to focus upon so as to attract happiness into your life is the area of personal relationships. In creating deeper and more meaningful bonds in your personal relationships you will derive far more happiness than from professional success.

Tips On How To Be Happy At Work

Unfortunately a lot of people state that their work place or job makes them unhappy. If this is something that affects your levels of happiness, then take a look at the following tips on how to be happy at work.

Let's start by saying that no one is permanently happy in their workplace, and we all face days where we just don't want to go. However there are certain things that we can do in order to avoid those days. The first tip I can give you is to never put things off. Many of us have had difficult clients that we just don't want to deal with, but unfortunately putting things off can only lead to us feeling unhappy. When you are faced with this situation you should tackle it quickly and get it done. That way you are not dwelling on it, and you will feel a sense of achievement once it is done.

Do not overload yourself with work. Many people take on too much work and become stressed and unhappy. One of the best ways to be happy at work is to stay on top of your workload. That doesn't mean that you should skip lunch in order to get work done, as this will just affect your concentration and work. If you are falling behind on urgent work then you could always eat and work at the same time.

You can improve the way in which you feel about work by personalising your work area. This means pinning up photos of your loved ones or placing a photo on your desk. If you start to feel low then a quick glimpse of your family or even your pet will put a smile on your face.

One of the key ways to be happy at work is not to be scared to say no. Many of us feel stressed and pressurised into saying yes to colleagues when they get asked for help, this can sometimes add more pressure onto ourselves. No one likes to say no, but saying yes when you really can't or don't want to is going to affect your happiness.

One final bit of information that I suggest for you to be happy at work is not to involve yourself in things that do not concern you. Within the workplace the less you know is sometimes better, as it keeps you focused on what is important. This allows you to free your brain of the stressful situations that you no control over. Through following the simple tips listed above you will be able to ensure that you remain happy at work.

What Does It Take to Keep a Guy Happy? Here Are a Set of Things You Can Do Consistently

When we want a relationship to work out well then we have to make an effort to keep our partner happy. If you want to know what you need to do to keep your guy happy and smiling then read on.

     Be honest with him
When you want to keep a man happy then you have to be honest with him in all your interactions. Have an open and transparent relationship where he is allowed to be. You also need to see that you don't try to act like someone else to impress him. Be honest about who you are and your man will be happy.

     Love him completely
Much like women, men too need to feel the love. Show your man that you love him. Do things that make him feel special. Tell him how much you appreciate all the things that he does for you and your man will be happy.

     Don't try to change him
When you want a man to be happy then you have to make him feel that he is perfect. Don't try to make him see his faults or make him feel inadequate by constantly criticizing him or trying to change him.

     Give him the freedom and space that he needs
To be happy in a relationship men need to know that they are free and that their space hasn't and isn't going to be compromised. So, allow your man to feel like he has all the control that he wants. Let him feel free to go out with his buddies. Show him that you trust him by not meddling with his stuff. Do all of this and your man will be happy with you.

     Don't use guilt as a weapon
Don't use guilt to manipulate your man to do something for you. The less guilt you use to get your way, the better you look in your man's eyes. And the less manipulated he feels, the happier he is in a relationship.

     Value people he values
When you want to keep your guy happy you have to take a look at the things and people who matter to him. Show him that you care for all that matters to him. Take special care of his needs. Make an effort to get along with his friends and family and your man will be happy.

     Don't be difficult to handle
Lastly, to keep your man happy you need to be easy to get along with. Keep the diva act aside and focus on keeping your relationship easy and fun and your man will always be happy.

How To Be Happy When Things Are Going Wrong

When things are going wrong, there is an intense focus on the bad things in your life. This intense focus on bad things also brings up more fear that you will experience more bad things, hence making your life seem even worse.

It isn't that we are to deny that we have fears or try to fight our negative thoughts; it is that we are to come home to our center. When I say "come home to our center" it is to simply let go and forgive all those negative thoughts and images flying around in your head.

Coming home to your center is bringing your energy and your focus to the inner you, to connect with that part of you that is God, that is all loving, that is joyful.

We have looked away from this area of ourselves for so long that we have forgotten ourselves and our own connection to God. Listening to your intuition (God speaking within you) is near impossible to hear when you are so focused on the bad things happening in your life.

You have a choice to focus on peace and balance in the midst of the bad things that are happening to you. Do not resist your bad feelings, most likely anyone experiencing what you are experiencing would certainly feel the same way. But, if you ever want to experience happiness when everything is going wrong, then you must focus and CHOOSE to look at the value of your spirit and your inner self. That value has nothing to do with what the ego says is wrong in your life.

Let the ego (that negative, limiting voice in your head) spout off all the bad things that might happen to you, let it scream like a whining child in the background, send it love, and choose not to take it so seriously. What is says is not THE ONLY TRUTH.

Choose something more positive and loving. Practice makes perfect, you may not feel like you are getting it right the first time you try. Keep trying and have faith. What have you got to lose?

If you are having problems getting your emotions to follow along with your decision to be happy and positive, then there are ways to change that permanently. Through a little research, you can rediscover your power of choice and create the joy filled life you desire.

There are techniques that can change the way you feel and create the life of your dreams in a short period of time.

Don't give up hope and let life get you down! If it's your motivation for life you have lost, then learn different ways of getting motivated by clicking the link.

Can You Be Happy In A Same Sex Marriage? - Pros And Cons

Men and women, all have the same dream - to commit themselves fully to someone that they love and who loves them back and this is manifested through marriage between parties.

Though it seems impossible and was considered taboo in the last few decades or so, and at the same time persecuted often in public, gays, lesbians, bisexuals and transsexuals can now enjoy this public declaration of their love to their partner through the passing of same-sex marriage laws. Same-sex marriage gives our LGBT community the power to enjoy the same benefits as well as obligations as that of other married couples.

Where Same-Sex Marriage is Allowed
Although same-sex marriage is now seen as inevitable, it is still not accepted in many countries as well as in several US states. Countries that legally recognized same-sex include Argentina, Brazil, France, Iceland, New Zealand, Netherlands, Spain, South Africa, Denmark, Canada, Belgium, Norway, South Africa, Spain, Uruguay and Sweden.

Progress however can be seen as UK will fully recognize same sex marriage in 2014 and several states in the US have already started recognizing and issuing marriage licenses for LGBT couples including Connecticut, Hawaii, California, Iowa, Maryland, New Hampshire, Delaware, New Jersey, Vermont, Washington, Maine, Rhode Island, Minnesota, New York, Massachusetts, Illinois and the District of Columbia.

Is Same-Sex Marriage For You and Your Partner?
Those who wish to get married under the same-sex marriage law should understand the pros and cons before getting married. Talking with their partner can help decide whether getting married will benefit both or not. Below are some of the pros and cons that one has to consider before getting married.

PROS
If the couple lives in the US then they would get to enjoy the benefits that the government provides for married couples as well. Some examples of these benefits would include health care, nursing home and social security benefits. Other benefits exclusive to the state also applies if the couple lives in the state that recognizes civil union or same-sex marriages.

Another benefit of getting married is the fact that one can have children and have the same support, rights and responsibilities as accorded by the law with heterosexual couples.

One partner can also adopt their biological kid from another partner and can even enjoy visitation and custody rights as opposed to those who are unmarried. The other partner also automatically becomes the guardian and legal parent of the children should one partner die.

CONS
As any marriage that does fall apart, getting divorced has its own complexities that couples should take note of. One of the cons would include splitting up properties especially for those who have no pre-nuptial agreement made beforehand. Properties are merged and thus would be split in half when one files for divorce. The other partner is also entitled under the law to seek alimony.

Whatever you and your partner decide, marriage is a beautiful event that happens once in a lifetime - make it count.

How To Be Happy: The Meaning of Life

In western consumer society, pleasure is elevated as the most vital ingredient to happiness. Pleasure produces positive emotion and undoubtedly positive emotion does have a critical role to play when it comes to our wellbeing.

The positive emotions we experience by engaging in pleasurable, leisure activities such as eating, drinking, shopping or watching films is short lived though. A life that is full of passive leisure and little else would ultimately not be a satisfying one or indeed a happy one, in the broader sense of the word. Why? Because although pleasurable activity can bring positive emotion it does not offer meaning.

To be as happy as we can, we need to seek the meaning in our lives. We do this by living what Aristotle called 'the good life'. Unlike the pleasant life of just leisure, the good life involves knowing what your character strengths are adapting your life so you use them more, and to use them in service of something larger than you are.

When we are working to our strengths we also get to experience flow, which is a state of mindfulness during which we are fully absorbed in the present to the point where 'time stands still'. Some describe being in flow as being at one with what you are doing.

As multiple research studies has shown that living 'a good life' increases life satisfaction and living a 'pleasant life' does not, it is worth learning about our strengths and how they can help us to generate and experience more meaning.

Meaning varies from person to person: what is meaningful to you might mean nothing much to me. But wherever your personal meaning in life might lie, it almost always involves being attached to something bigger than you are. We never find much meaning within our selves alone. It's important to remember too that people usually draw meaning form a number of sources, including religion, hobbies, campaigns, projects, career, family and friends.

A good first step to take if we are seeking to enrich the meaning in our lives is to complete the free VIA strengths survey that you can access on the authentic happiness.org website (which is a great positive psychology resource). This will give you a definite idea of what your signature strengths are, and this will allow you to think of ways that you could use them more.

To conclude: the meaning of life lies in learning about who you uniquely are and then connecting yourself to some bigger pictures, and contribute to them using your natural strengths.

How to Be Happy Without a Friend

It is possible to agree that everyone needs at least one friend in their lives. Friends are people who support you, lend great opportunities, and spend good and bad times along with you until the very end. However, it is also possible where there is a gap in life which makes you lack friends. Due to departures, friends can get separated from you for their own reasons.

These days, though, the use of technology has improved and solved this main problem we have in the society. The communication between friends seems to become simpler with the use of social network sites and programs which allow users to chat or call to one another with just an internet connection. For some people, the matter that friends come and go is considered normal. However, the temporary lack of friends, or in some cases, the farewell between friends can become a big impact in life.
Dealing with Emotions

The mind serves as the main control of the entire human body. The brain controls human behaviors and emotions according to the influences from the environment. Therefore, if you are capable of controlling your emotions, you can as well control your perspectives.

Sadness, fear, and disappointment will result in negative thoughts and overflowing emotions in people who are not being able to control their feelings and emotions. When a friend has to leave for a college located far away from your neighborhood, don't let your sadness and the fear of loss stop them. Deal with your own personal emotions and let go for their own good. Slowly consider the reasons of their departure before letting your emotions guide how you feel and act. If a friend moves away for their own good, learn to be happy with them as you can always communicate with each other with the use of technology.

Enjoy Yourself

Being alone isn't a bad matter really. The ability to enjoy your own company makes you an independent person. Working alone, reading alone, and eating lunch alone can further make you into a responsible person as you are required to clean your own mess, do your own job, and finish your own deeds.

The efficiency of concentration upon a subject will also be improved when being alone. Just as a person sings solo live, you can as well do things as a solo. By doing things all by yourself and being capable of performing solo activities, higher opportunities may be granted.

Look at Yourself More

When your friends are no longer around, you have more time to groom and look clearly at yourself. Without friends, there are a few to none beings that are brave and trustworthy enough to tell you when your hair is flipped over or even when milk messes up your lips.

Their leave may have tapped your back a little, giving you a sign that improvement on self appearance and awareness is needed. Leaving to the bus station with your untied shoelaces may cause you to trip yourself over and that's a big embarrassment.

With more time alone, look at the mirror before you take your leave and check if everything is alright. Be more independent and confident when you know friends are gone. Learn to cope with your own problems and adapt to specific situations on your own. Once you are capable of doing so, you will be confident and happy all by yourself and even towards others who are around.

How To Be Really Happy Forever

Everyone wants to be happy, but happiness depends on many factors.

Many people believe that money brings happiness, because if they can pay and fulfil all their desires they imagine that they will be happy forever. However, money is only a facility. It cannot buy health, love and peace.

If you are sick, alone, in a war, dominated by craziness and despair, money cannot save you. It can help you find famed doctors, or paid lovers, or a false peace based on the threat of weapons, but everything you can get by paying is only an illusion. You need much more in order to feel really satisfied.

If you want to be really happy forever you have to change the world, bringing peace, abundance and happiness to Earth, besides helping humanity cultivate love, patience, goodness and humility in its heart.
You have to put an end to craziness, terrorism and despair.

If you cannot transform everything, you will never be completely happy.

So, you have either to accept to live in a crazy world full of violence and absurdity, trying to be happy on your "personal island", where only your family and your friends have importance for you, or you have to transform this crazy world into a place where everyone will have the chance to be happy, otherwise you will never be really happy too.

This is a selfish thought, but I know that you are very selfish from birth - this is why I'm explaining the truth to you in terms you can understand. You would never care for the world's pain if it didn't affect you.
I notice that each time I write an article about general happiness and the necessity to change the world so that everyone will at least have the basic conditions of life besides many things more, only a few people read my articles.

However, when I give lessons about their personal lives and how they can overcome their problems, those articles are the most often viewed.

Yes, nobody cares for the entire world. Nobody really cares for humanity.

Everyone only wants to live well, without working and only having fun. This is the ideal scenario, even though they know that things cannot be this way and they get adapted to the reality of their lives. However, their philosophy of life is the above mentioned, without a doubt.

You probably are not an exception...

Are you?

I really hope that you are, because some people are exceptions, even though they are quite rare. You will find one sensitive person that cares for the well being of the entire world, among billions and billions of alienated creatures that care only about their personal lives...

However, the truth is that the desire to be happy in such world the way it is now, with so many horrors, is in fact a crazy desire.

Don't you agree that only crazy creatures would try to be happy in a place where violence, terrorism, immorality, hypocrisy, poverty and other horrors exist?

I'm sure you do, if you are sensible. But you don't know how to change the crazy world, and you have no power...

At this point you need a miracle. And only because the miracle does exist, have I started explaining the truth in this way, otherwise I would not start showing you how absurd it is to want to be happy in a place where craziness prevails, because I would have to abandon you totally disappointed at the end of this article, while my intention is to help you solve your problems.

The miracle is inside you and sends you dreams with warnings, lessons and free psychotherapy everyday. It is the wise and saintly unconscious mind, that tries to save the human side of your conscience from the wild, primitive side that is responsible for the existence of craziness in the human mind.

If you follow the guidance you receive in your dreams, the unconscious mind will show you how you can transform your psyche, develop your personality and become a self-confident genius, so that you may be able to solve all the problems of the world, not only thanks to your intelligence, but thanks to your sensitivity and the superiority of your spirit.

Prevent Depression and Craziness through the scientific method of Dream Interpretation discovered by Carl Jung and simplified by Christina Sponias, a writer who continued Jung's research in the unknown region of the human psychic sphere.

Why It Is Important To Be Happy

 

The simple answer to this question is because it is not worth to remain moody or sad. An answer based on biological observations would be happiness trigger the production of vital hormones in the body that is crucial for overall health and metabolism. Another worthy reply to this query is happiness brings in a positive and stable mental frame of mind. But, whichever concept you endorse upon, one aspect is quite clear, being happy is many times more worthy than letting the negative emotions build in yourself.

Realistically enough, we all live in a world amidst so much of unlucky people, poverty, violence, stress, competition, and all sorts of sadness inducing environment you can think of. So it is only natural that a part of our mind always tends to carry a tinge of sadness or lean towards this negative emotion often because the natural momentum is acting in that direction.

But, being sad could leave more than a profound impact on the human body as far as its overall health is concerned. As per the latest medical researches, most cases of depression, stress, apnea, migraine, and many other diseases have its roots in the sad frame of mind.

Even the specialists treat these conditions say, one of the best medicines for these diseases are happiness, laughter and relaxation. Need any more proof to believe that it is important to be happy?

From you, the common man out there, the only possible way out of this mess is to make a mental effort by yourself - to muster the drive and power - in order to trudge your way back to happiness.

Learn to focus on better and positive things when sadness sets in, and try to convince oneself that you are still lucky and well placed than many others living in this world. Make it a habit to smile even in adversities, and avoid being alone. That is, always try to be in the company of others or engage yourself in activities that interest you to the core. Never ever let the mind wander idle.

Finally, if you are convinced that you are not able to shrug of the element of sadness fully, consider consulting a psychologist. If there is any case of a budding depression, then earlier medical intervention could set things straight. In short, try every possible step to fight off sadness, mentally or medically, whichever is required. Because, it is really important to be happy! The stakes are that high.

John Khu is an experience entrepreneur and internet marketer. He specializes in communication development and personal happiness.

Your Rules Influence How Happy and Successful You Will Become

At one time, I went on a holiday to a beautiful island. The accommodation we stayed in was good although not as luxurious as the resort nearby. The island however was beautiful, just to sit on the beach and watch the sunrise or sunset was magical.

My friend Julie who accompanied me wasn't happy doing this. Instead of enjoying her surroundings and the beauty of nature, she would watch the rich people staying at the nearby resort and envy how they lived.

Julie constantly compared herself to others who were more prosperous and she found herself and her lifestyle lacking. Julie had constant money problems and wondered why no matter how hard she worked, she never seemed to get what she really wanted.

Our perception of success or happiness is dictated by our rules, and Julie's rules implied that in order for her to be successful and happy, she had to live comfortably. These rules not only prevented her from becoming happy, they also limited her opportunities. The more rigid your rules, the harder it will be for you to achieve and be happy with your goals.

A lot of people live by the 'I'll be happy when... ' rule. They believe they will be happy when they find the right person to share their life with, when they find the right job, when they buy a home of their own, have children, or have more money. When you live by the 'I'll be happy when... ' rule you spend your life striving. It won't matter how much you achieve because it will never be enough.

Sometimes though, rules can serve us and one of mine is that I never make a decision based on fear. Many years ago when I was looking for direction in my own life, I consulted an astrologer and we became quite friendly. Later, when I bought my home I invited her to my house-warming party. She rang to say she couldn't attend and took the opportunity to berate me for buying a house.

She said, 'Anne, how could you buy a house? You know as well as anyone the financial disasters that are going to happen. How could you take on a mortgage at this time?' The disasters that she referred to were predictions of the collapse of our entire financial system, as well as a tidal wave hitting Sydney close to where I live. It hadn't even occurred to me to listen to these dire predictions. I simply followed my intuition, and many years later my home doubled in value while this woman was still renting.

There is nothing good or bad about rules; some rules will make you happy, others will make you unhappy. If you have rules, you need to be aware of them and you discover what your rules are by listening to your words. Any time you say, 'Should', 'Must', or 'Have to', you have discovered one of your rules.

Generally speaking, the more rules you have, the harder you make life for yourself and for those around you. The less 'should' in your life means less stress. That does not mean you have to give up all of your standards, just choose to make conscious choices each time rather than having a lot of blanket rules.

What Does it Mean to Be Happy?

What is happiness?  What will it take to make you happy?  People all over the world look for what it takes to make them happy in their lives, but it seems like a great many people never quite "find it."
Its my opinion that this is part of the problem.  Happiness isn't something that's found.  Happiness isn't something that finds you either.  If it is something that can be found then where it can be found might surprise you.

It's in your mind.  that's right, it can be found within the depths of your own mind.  It's a choice that you make everyday.  When you look around at your life, you make a decision about it.  You decide to be happy with it or you don't.

You can choose to look around at all the small annoyances that you that you face and decide that you because of those, you're not going to be happy.  A little secret about those little annoyances is that they're always going to be there.  No matter what you do for a living , or where you live, or how much money you have, if you choose to focus your energy on these things, you'll likely never find lasting happiness.

However on the flip side if you come to the understanding that there are always going to be those little annoyances, you'll have taken a huge first step toward becoming a happy person. 

The good thing about this is that you'll find that once you start focusing on the things in your life that make you happy, those small annoyances will become much less influential on your mind and therefore your happiness.  You'll find yourself paying more attention to the things that make you happy as opposed to the things that don't, and that will make a big difference in your life.

Justin Bott is a successful entrepreneur operating an internet marketing business. He is well versed in this field and has a keen desire to become more successful and to help others become successful as well.

As someone who's searched his entire life for success, he's studied many different programs and philosophies and brought them together to create a sustainable home-based business. Go to, to find out how he got started.