How to Leverage Your Happiness and Grow

Happynomics is hot. And the king of a bitsy, sluggish Himalayan kingdom is the guy responsible.
In 1972, he gave traditional economics a kick in the teeth when he declared that "gross national happiness"--not gross national product--would be the new (and only!) measuring stick for his country's success. Fast forward four decades, and you've got yourself the second fastest-growing economy in the world: the nation of Bhutan. But not everyone is clapping.

Happy First

What is it that we are so afraid of? Why won't we let go?

A shark cannot rest, it cannot stop swimming or it will die, it will drown.

Humanity seems to be acting in the same manner. It is though we are running for our lives. We are being chased and if we stop we will die.

There is an urgency to get somewhere, anywhere, and we do not know what to look for or where, but it is always out there, somewhere.

Unknowingly we have left the place that we are looking for. From the inner peace that we experienced so long ago as children and as the person we once were. We seem to have lost our way and are running just for the sake of running. It is as though we are in a cattle stampede. One starts running and we are following blindly.

What happened to the peace, the serenity and joy of just being, what happened to our innocence? Somewhere along the way we believe that we have lost it, and that we cannot have it again. Someone told us to run and we haven't stopped.

The industrial revolution has pushed us forward in a frenzy to acquire things, the latest is always best, always desirable and it is the carrot that moves us beyond our means, away from what we really desire.

It has taken us away from our natural ability to be at peace, to be happy and content. 'Things,' have promised us happiness, but we do not feel happy when we have them. There is always a promise of happiness but never delivery. Things may be symbols of our happiness but they do not bring the promise with them, because there is another thing dancing in the shadows, calling to us, beckoning, luring us from one thing to another.

We are so far gone that we now believe that we cannot be happy unless we have a thing. We have forgotten how to be happy naturally without being stimulated. We have been told that we cannot go backwards; we cannot go back to the way it was before because we would not have our things.

This is one of the greatest lies that have been passed on from one generation to another. Happiness is where you find it we are told, and this is absolute true if we understand that we can find happiness anywhere if we are happy first. The thought of being happy brings happiness into our lives. Happiness comes from within and is not put upon us by things.

Unhappiness is created from the thought that we need something to be happy and this unhappiness comes from the very things that we are depending on to bring us happiness.

If illness, accidents, sorrow, suffering, lack and loneliness comes from an error in thought, then only the thought has to be changed in order to achieve the happiness, and once our basic needs are met, there is only room for happiness. When thoughts turn towards wants then they turn away from comforting human emotion, natural love, joy, pleasure, contentment and belonging. The simpler life is the closest we get to true happiness, because we become focused on it, it is what we think about and all thought becomes manifested in our experience.

"I can't go back, I won't, I worked too hard to get where I am and what I have; I won't live in a cave.
If all we really want is to be happy, why would we not live in a cave and live simply if it brings us back to happy. If we are heading in a direction that leads away from happiness, why do we keep going there? Is it that we are happy to be unhappy or that happiness does not really exist except in our thoughts? Is it that we believe that happiness does not last, so why pursue it? What is it that we do with the butterfly once we catch it? Is the happiness found in catching the butterfly or letting it go once we have been there, or is it both? Can we experience happiness without experiencing all its opposites? Is the joy of letting go a precept in experiencing happiness once we have found it? Must we turn away from happiness so that we may find it later? If we are happy and remain that way, will we forget what it means to be happy?

All of our experiences are this way, they are cyclical, and we cannot know what we have or experience it until we no longer have it. We must move away from it so that we can come back to it. So if living our complicated lives is not bringing the happiness that we choose, is it because we forgot what it is or are we now ready to return to it?

Is it that we are running from something or is it that we are now running towards it? The trip will stop when we know that we already have what we desire, we simply need to choose it. Happiness, joy, fulfillment, belonging are things that we do not have to look for. They are what we are naturally and we simply have moved our thoughts away from them.

Our things, our toys are symbols, but they are not symbols of happiness, they are symbols of trying to be happy. They are symbols that we have moved away from what we already have, what we know. In trying to make our lives easier so that we have "time," to be happy and enjoy our lives we have created less time to be happy. Happy is scheduled for events and things and then we are too tired. To numb our loss of the sense of happiness we drug ourselves so that we don't have to feel anything.

The truth is and always has been that we can be happy without "things," or doing anything. The sacrifice is that we have to give up on the notion that we need anything and we must be prepared to give up things that do not demonstrate our happiness. Happiness comes as quickly as thinking about it. Be happy first then go out and do things that represent happy to you. Happiness comes in the silent moments between events, when there is nothing left to do, when we have given up on finding it, and when we have done everything else. When we have given up on the notion that we have to find it, it finds us.

I don't know anyone that is happy all the time or even most of the time. I think happiness must be dessert. We have to go through the main course to find it. If dessert was the main course we would still move away from it once we had finished or had enough of it.

I believe that we can be happy all the time, but not experience it. As we get involved in doing the happy things we forget that we are happy until it enters our mind that we are happy. Too much happiness or dessert becomes irritating and mundane, like sex, you got to move away from it in order to appreciate it and be grateful for the times that you are experiencing it.

An emotion that comes from happiness is contentment, which is not as intense. But even contentment as happiness must be recycled. Life without extremes is none life. Life moves in waves and begins on the edge of all our emotions. Once you hand gets used to being in warm water, it is no longer appreciated as warm until you pull it out.

Once we let go of the thought that we will not longer experience happiness, then we will have time to focus on simply experiencing this emotion and it will be drawn into our lives. We won't have to do things to find it. Stop running, move away from the crowd, simplify your life become aware of your environment, learn to appreciate what is already around you and happiness will enter your thoughts always. Find the beauty in the simple rock, a blade of grass, or the people around you. You have created them, they are your wonders, and you brought them to you as opportunities to experience happiness.

Roy E. Klienwachter is a resident of British Columbia, Canada. A student of NLP, an ordained minister, New Age Light Worker and Teacher. Roy has written and published seven ebooks on New Age wisdom and a new book coming out in late 2005 in paper form. Roy's books are thought provoking and designed to empower you to take responsibility for your life and what you create. His books and articles are written in the simplicity and eloquence of Zen wisdom.

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What Does It Take to Keep a Guy Happy? Here Are a Set of Things You Can Do Consistently

When we want a relationship to work out well then we have to make an effort to keep our partner happy. If you want to know what you need to do to keep your guy happy and smiling then read on.

     Be honest with him
When you want to keep a man happy then you have to be honest with him in all your interactions. Have an open and transparent relationship where he is allowed to be. You also need to see that you don't try to act like someone else to impress him. Be honest about who you are and your man will be happy.

     Love him completely
Much like women, men too need to feel the love. Show your man that you love him. Do things that make him feel special. Tell him how much you appreciate all the things that he does for you and your man will be happy.

     Don't try to change him
When you want a man to be happy then you have to make him feel that he is perfect. Don't try to make him see his faults or make him feel inadequate by constantly criticizing him or trying to change him.

     Give him the freedom and space that he needs
To be happy in a relationship men need to know that they are free and that their space hasn't and isn't going to be compromised. So, allow your man to feel like he has all the control that he wants. Let him feel free to go out with his buddies. Show him that you trust him by not meddling with his stuff. Do all of this and your man will be happy with you.

     Don't use guilt as a weapon
Don't use guilt to manipulate your man to do something for you. The less guilt you use to get your way, the better you look in your man's eyes. And the less manipulated he feels, the happier he is in a relationship.

     Value people he values
When you want to keep your guy happy you have to take a look at the things and people who matter to him. Show him that you care for all that matters to him. Take special care of his needs. Make an effort to get along with his friends and family and your man will be happy.

     Don't be difficult to handle
Lastly, to keep your man happy you need to be easy to get along with. Keep the diva act aside and focus on keeping your relationship easy and fun and your man will always be happy.

The Life You Want: Get Motivated, Lose Weight, and Be Happy by Bob Greene

"The Life You Want: Get Motivated, Lose Weight, and Be Happy" is the newest book by fitness author Bob Greene, who also wrote "Make the Connection: Ten Steps to a Better Body and a Better Life," "Keep the Connection: Choices for a Better Body and a Healthier Life," "The Best Life Diet," and a number of others.

This book, written with psychologist Ann Kearney-Cooke and nutritionist Janis Jibrin focuses on common barriers to weight loss success and provides practical tips in regards to emotional eating and lack of motivation.

After an introduction, where Greene tells a personal story that involves his looking into the emotional and psychological side of weight loss, and what this book can do for the reader, it begins with a chapter on barriers to weight loss success. Greene addresses eight barriers, and none of them are eating or exercising, but rather mental or emotional aspects.

In chapter two, Kearney-Cooke addresses overcoming emotional eating. This is a big problem for many, and this chapter reveals some simple ways to find your motivation, overcome barriers, and find replacements for eating to deal with emotions. It's a practical chapter with advice on how to achieve your goals in these areas.

The third chapter is by Jibrin, and it focuses on rewiring your sugar, fat, and salt loving brain. There is some interesting information on why we eat what we do, eight reasons why we should get control of our eating, and her nine step program for sticking to a nutritious, calorie appropriate diet.

Greene is back with chapter four, where he covers conquering exercise aversion. If you have trouble getting up and getting going, this chapter may just help you find some motivation to move.

He lists thirteen reasons to exercise, and you really only need to pick one to motivate yourself to do it. He addresses many common excuses and to overcome them, as well as different types of exercises you should be including into your workouts.

Chapter five is on transforming your body image, and in it Kearney-Cooke addresses a topic that many people need help with, especially with the images we are bombarded with on television and the print media.
Greene is back again with chapter six, which covers maintaining weight loss. He looks at what works and what doesn't, and provides some good suggestions and tips in making sure when you lose weight, you keep it off.

Being happy is important, and Kearney-Cooke looks at what it takes to be happy in chapter seven. I liked this chapter and think a lot of people could benefit from following the simple guidelines set forth in these pages.

Following chapter seven, there is Appendix 1 which contains The Lifestyle Log. This is an encouragement with a sample worksheet, to record important things about your lifestyle such as your sleep, hunger, food and drink consumption, etc.

Appendix 2 covers Body Mass Index, while Appendix 3 has the Goldberg Depression Scale. Appendix 4 has instructions on goal setting worksheets with a sample, and Appendix 5 has The Motivational Interview to help you assess yourself. Appendix 6 is The Best Life Approach to Exercise by Greene. Simple plan with suggested exercises. Short descriptions of the exercises, but no pictures.

Overall, this is a good book for many people who are having difficulties losing weight, or keeping it off, due to emotional hangups or the lack of motivation.

The authors offer simple and practical guidance to overcome such barriers, get motivated, lose weight, and be happy. If you need assistance in these areas, check out this book, but more importantly, apply what the authors teach.

Can You Be Happy in a Loveless Marriage?

On an almost daily basis, I have people who contact me and ask for advice on handling or coping with their "loveless marriage." Sometimes they are describing a relationship where the spark, connection, affection, and chemistry is gone.

And other times, they mean that they and their spouse are no longer having sex. Whatever the actual living arrangements, they are usually reaching out because they know that there is a serious flaw in their marriage and they want to find a way to be with happy within in.

Most of the time, they don't see divorce as an option perhaps because of their children or because they believe that this commitment should be forever. I often hear comments like "We'll never get divorced so how can I learn to be happy in my loveless marriage?" Or, "how can I survive and keep my sanity in a marriage without love?" In the following article, I'll explore whether it's possible to truly be happy when you're living in a loveless marriage.

Finding Happiness In A Loveless Marriage. Is It Possible? Before I get to this specific question, I want to offer some reassurance that this is an incredibly common situation. Often, when people tell me that they're living in a marriage which they don't see as loving, it's as if they confessing something truly strange, and they're almost ashamed of it.

I have to tell you though that I'm seeing this situation with much more frequency. Perhaps it's because of our economy or other external factors, but this situation is not one that is at all uncommon. So, if you're feeling guilt or shame, you can rest assured that you're most definitely not alone.

Another issue that I've noticed is that most people who contact me about this issue have given up hope that their marriage can or will change. Many of them see the lack of love as something that is going to be permanent.

They usually aren't looking for a way to change the marriage into a loving one (at least at first.) Instead, they're looking for a way to be happy or to cope in spite of it. I find this to be somewhat frustrating because I've seen even marriages which appeared to be completely devoid of affection turn around.

But back to question of whether it's possible to be happy in this situation. I think that it's possible to be happy in other areas of your life.

For example, you can be happy because of your children or your career or your friends. You can be happy with yourself. You can have a very rich internal and even external life so long as you are able to separate all of these things from your marriage.

And that's really where the problem lies. When you are in this situation, your ability to be happy almost lies within your ability to simultaneously separate your life from your marriage. This is not to say that it can't be done because I've seen people who are able to do this. They basically have come to accept their marriage for what it is and they live around it. And some of them even appear to be content.

But I'm always left wondering what would happen and what their life and contentment level would look like if they were able to find some love or loving feelings within their marriage again. I suspect life would go from firing on half cylinders to full cylinders and this would feel quite different to all involved.

I truly believe that you don't need to be in a romantic relationship to be happy. In other words, I certainly don't believe that a woman always needs a man to be complete or to feel fulfilled. But, when you are already in a relationship and are accepting that this relationship will never be a loving or fulfilling one, then I suspect that you might be selling yourself short.

Sure, you can learn to separate your satisfaction in other areas of your life from your marriage and in this case you could function just fine and even feel happiness and satisfaction. But the joy that comes from loving and feeling loved would be absent and I suspect that this absence would be certainly be felt.

Does this mean you can't be happy? Absolutely not. It just means that you have to learn to be happy without this particular aspect of your life present, which could potentially mean that although you don't reach your entire capacity for happiness, you generally feel happy enough.

What Are Your Options When You're Living In A Loveless Marriage?: Sometimes when I discuss this topic with folks, they tell me that they don't feel as if they really have any choices. For a variety of reasons, they aren't going to walk away from their marriage or from their spouse. Mostly, I don't think that they feel that their problems are severe enough to walk away. Many tell me that their spouse is a good person with whom that get along but whom they just aren't "in love with."

So, the options would appear to be to leave the relationship in search of a better one. (And as I said this usually is seen as the last resort.

I can certainly respect this because I too believe that in many cases, marriage should be forever.) The second option would be to learn to live around the marriage as best as you can and to seek happiness in other areas of your life. And some people have become quite good at this.

The third option would be try to improve the marriage so that you no longer have to try to mesh a loveless marriage with your own happiness. I am generally surprised that more people don't pursue this option.

I firmly believe and have experienced marriages which had been "loveless" for years make dramatic and satisfying come backs. And I'll often suggest that this is certainly worth a try. What do you have to lose if the marriage is already one that is lacking in love? I would suspect that the possibility of being happy in all areas of your life would make this an option worth pursuing.

It was my husband, not me, who felt that our marriage was "loveless," so he threatened to end it. I knew that it wasn't over for me and I refused to give up. I felt very strongly that we could be happy again. But, for a long time I drew on negative emotions rather than positive ones.

How to Motivate Yourself - Best 3 Tips for Getting Motivated

I guess you would like to know how to motivate yourself. Who wouldn't? Imagine a man fired up and his motivation to the roof. Imagine that this state of mind lasts for years.

What do you think a man like that could achieve in his life? Yes, you are right! Everything! Motivation is the key to success in our life and we know that but we do not know the key to motivation. This is where we struggle and desperately want to find an easy way on how to motivate ourselves so that we can achieve everything that we have always dreamt about.

Tip1 Distractions are Bad - Get Rid of Them Quickly
First thing you want to do if you would like to get motivated is to get rid of everything that distracts you in any way. Sit down, take a paper and write everything that you are doing in a routine every day but which is not important and which can be sliced out.

Most common thing that people do is watching TV too much. It's time to stop it. I'm not saying that you should throw the TV out of your home but at least make a list of things that you can watch and keep it really small because TV is not important.

We just think it is because we have accustomed us to it. I assure you even if you throw it out of your home after a month you won't even need a TV. Daily news can be read on internet and I believe it's everything you need. Movies and specially TV series are time consuming.

Educational material can also always be found on internet and you'll search only for things you want to know and you'll not lose time listening to 9 things you are not interested to find out one thing that is important to you.

Like TV you can also get rid of any other stuff in your life to free some space for important things.

Tip2 Why do You Want to Know How to Motivate Yourself
OK, after the distractions we still need to know how to motivate yourself. So this is the next thing and maybe the most important thing you should do. Write down WHY you want to do something. For example why do you want to lose weight?

Write everything down. If the reason is your health write all the good things if you exercise and all the bad things if you don't. What are the benefits of a great body you are dreaming of? Does attracting the girls/boys with a great body mean something to you? If yes write it down. Write everything, and write in details. This should be at least a one paper of text and whenever you feel down you should read this. Of course, on the way of exercising you'll find other benefits and the list should be changed. Keep revising the list on the way.

Tip3 Setting Goals Will Get Your Motivation High Enough
After you got rid of distractions and after you've written down all the WHYs there is only one thing you should know about how to motivate yourself and this is setting goals. This is very important and it has to be done right. Writing only one final goal is not enough.

You have to set many small goals and steps on the way to the final goal. You should also set the time deadlines for every goal.

Goals have to be achievable, but on the other side they have to be challenging too. I personally go even further and set my goals for every day that comes. I take 5-10 minutes in evening and write down everything I'm going to do tomorrow. This has really helped me to do a lot of stuff that I've usually tried to avoid.

Let's do it NOW
These three steps are very good but they'll not work if you are not ready to implement them. You have to start doing it now. It's all up to you.

I've only given you the tools; you have to use these tools to get a higher motivation level that will lead you to your dreams. I hope that I've helped you a little in your quest of how to motivate yourself.

How To Be Happy When Things Are Going Wrong

When things are going wrong, there is an intense focus on the bad things in your life. This intense focus on bad things also brings up more fear that you will experience more bad things, hence making your life seem even worse.

It isn't that we are to deny that we have fears or try to fight our negative thoughts; it is that we are to come home to our center. When I say "come home to our center" it is to simply let go and forgive all those negative thoughts and images flying around in your head.

Coming home to your center is bringing your energy and your focus to the inner you, to connect with that part of you that is God, that is all loving, that is joyful.

We have looked away from this area of ourselves for so long that we have forgotten ourselves and our own connection to God. Listening to your intuition (God speaking within you) is near impossible to hear when you are so focused on the bad things happening in your life.

You have a choice to focus on peace and balance in the midst of the bad things that are happening to you. Do not resist your bad feelings, most likely anyone experiencing what you are experiencing would certainly feel the same way. But, if you ever want to experience happiness when everything is going wrong, then you must focus and CHOOSE to look at the value of your spirit and your inner self. That value has nothing to do with what the ego says is wrong in your life.

Let the ego (that negative, limiting voice in your head) spout off all the bad things that might happen to you, let it scream like a whining child in the background, send it love, and choose not to take it so seriously. What is says is not THE ONLY TRUTH.

Choose something more positive and loving. Practice makes perfect, you may not feel like you are getting it right the first time you try. Keep trying and have faith. What have you got to lose?

If you are having problems getting your emotions to follow along with your decision to be happy and positive, then there are ways to change that permanently. Through a little research, you can rediscover your power of choice and create the joy filled life you desire.

There are techniques that can change the way you feel and create the life of your dreams in a short period of time.

Don't give up hope and let life get you down! If it's your motivation for life you have lost, then learn different ways of getting motivated by clicking the link.

Can You Be Happy In A Same Sex Marriage? - Pros And Cons

Men and women, all have the same dream - to commit themselves fully to someone that they love and who loves them back and this is manifested through marriage between parties.

Though it seems impossible and was considered taboo in the last few decades or so, and at the same time persecuted often in public, gays, lesbians, bisexuals and transsexuals can now enjoy this public declaration of their love to their partner through the passing of same-sex marriage laws. Same-sex marriage gives our LGBT community the power to enjoy the same benefits as well as obligations as that of other married couples.

Where Same-Sex Marriage is Allowed
Although same-sex marriage is now seen as inevitable, it is still not accepted in many countries as well as in several US states. Countries that legally recognized same-sex include Argentina, Brazil, France, Iceland, New Zealand, Netherlands, Spain, South Africa, Denmark, Canada, Belgium, Norway, South Africa, Spain, Uruguay and Sweden.

Progress however can be seen as UK will fully recognize same sex marriage in 2014 and several states in the US have already started recognizing and issuing marriage licenses for LGBT couples including Connecticut, Hawaii, California, Iowa, Maryland, New Hampshire, Delaware, New Jersey, Vermont, Washington, Maine, Rhode Island, Minnesota, New York, Massachusetts, Illinois and the District of Columbia.

Is Same-Sex Marriage For You and Your Partner?
Those who wish to get married under the same-sex marriage law should understand the pros and cons before getting married. Talking with their partner can help decide whether getting married will benefit both or not. Below are some of the pros and cons that one has to consider before getting married.

PROS
If the couple lives in the US then they would get to enjoy the benefits that the government provides for married couples as well. Some examples of these benefits would include health care, nursing home and social security benefits. Other benefits exclusive to the state also applies if the couple lives in the state that recognizes civil union or same-sex marriages.

Another benefit of getting married is the fact that one can have children and have the same support, rights and responsibilities as accorded by the law with heterosexual couples.

One partner can also adopt their biological kid from another partner and can even enjoy visitation and custody rights as opposed to those who are unmarried. The other partner also automatically becomes the guardian and legal parent of the children should one partner die.

CONS
As any marriage that does fall apart, getting divorced has its own complexities that couples should take note of. One of the cons would include splitting up properties especially for those who have no pre-nuptial agreement made beforehand. Properties are merged and thus would be split in half when one files for divorce. The other partner is also entitled under the law to seek alimony.

Whatever you and your partner decide, marriage is a beautiful event that happens once in a lifetime - make it count.

How to Relax and Be Happy During Hard Times

 

Knowing how to relax and be happy, no matter what is happening around you, is a real gift. There have been real life accounts of people who were rich and healthy, who seemed to lead an ideal life, and yet, they were unhappy or sad. On the other hand, there have also been accounts of people whose lives were hard, even painful, and yet, they were happy. How can this be?

The reason for these paradoxes is that happiness and sadness are not determined by circumstances, but by our state of mind. That may be one of the greatest gifts of life and each of us may partake of it merely by learning how to focus on things that bring peace, relaxation, happiness.

Whatever we focus on will determine our mental, emotional, and even physical state. Of course, there are some limitations, but I have rarely found a person who couldn't be happier or more relaxed.

I learned the value of focusing my mind many years ago when I had to overcome a very big challenge. I had a young family to support and managed to land a job in a shipyard repairing submarines. It was a good job with health benefits and security that I needed for my wife and son.

However, I was assigned to the torpedo room and was told that I would be working inside tanks and even inside the long torpedo tubes. I had suffered from pretty severe claustrophobia all my life and had omitted to mention that when I got hired because I was afraid I wouldn't get the job if I brought it up.

For those of you who may never have been on a submarine, particularly a small, fast attack submarine, let me describe it for you. Every square inch of space in a submarine is precious and almost every part has equipment and pipes in the way.

Humans are the last piece of equipment to be added and therefore, we have to work around all those pipes, wires, machines, pumps and gear. Worse yet, a torpedo tube is a long metal pipe, like a big gun barrel, with a door on each end. At one end is the torpedo room and at the other end, the ocean. It is cold, dark, and so small you have to crawl in and out. There isn't enough room to turn around in a torpedo tube so if you crawl in headfirst, you are looking at the dark end.

The first day I went into the torpedo room, my boss asked if I was afraid of tight places. I tried to hide my fear and said, "No." He then told me to crawl inside the torpedo tube with an inside micrometer (a measuring device) to measure at certain intervals the entire length of the tube. I was afraid that I would panic once in the tube, but managed to crawl inside with my drop light and micrometer, pen and paper. Then, a thought occurred to me. Maybe if I kept focused on measuring and writing, I wouldn't notice the tight spot or think about a panic attack.

I crawled to the far end of the tube, about 30 feet away, all the while thinking about the job and how to do it. Before I knew it, I was at the far end of the tube. I put the light down and started measuring and writing the measurements on the paper. When I say I focused, I mean I really focused, consequently, I did a great job. Unfortunately for me, I did such a good job that I wound up working in those torpedo tubes day after day, measuring and grinding them back into shape.

I crawled all over those submarines during the next two years, in tighter spots than the torpedo tubes, too. My method was always the same, just focus on what you want to do and do it. The fact that I was also studying meditation and learning how to focus was a great help to me, as well. It was a valuable life lesson about how your surroundings have less to do with your feelings than your attitude and desire. My desire was to provide for my family and myself, even if it meant doing something difficult and fear producing, my attitude was that I could do it if I focused on the job.

It may be the same for you. Focus on what you want in life. I am not talking about material things, but rather, the feelings you want. What thought makes you feel happy? You will only be as happy or sad as you feel and thoughts lead to feelings. While chemical changes in the body and brain do affect our feelings, our thoughts affect the chemicals in our bodies.

Every thought that you have is an electro-chemical event in your body and produces polypeptides and hormones that affect how you feel, even your physical health. While clinical depression is a medical condition that does require medical care, for many of us, our thoughts and learning to use them for our own happiness, is all it takes to feel good even when times are bad.

How To Be Happy In Life - Keys To Staying Young And Happy

What is happiness? A lot of people want to be happy but when you ask them about the meaning of the word happiness, the answers always different. In some cases, people cannot even tell what it really means for them. However, we all know that each and one of us wants to have a happy and fulfilled life. It does not only make life a lot more exciting but it also makes people look vibrant and young. We should also remember that happiness is not always about having material things. How can we achieve it? Here are some keys on how to stay young and happy.

Optimism - A person with a positive outlook on life will always find a way to be happy. Life is all about how you view it and this means that happiness is a choice. You either feel sad and negative about the things that are happening to you or you accept things and looking at the brighter side. One you develop optimism, you will realize that life is not at all bad. Therefore, when challenges come and you have to face them, always think positively.

Future - The future is always exciting if that is how you view it. You need to look forward to it. Having something - an event, a person, a date - to look forward to will make you feel happy. It will energize your mornings and it will make you feel excited about starting the day. Starting the day with the right mindset and feelings will always make it end well. From time to time, set up dates with your friends or family. Have a feasible goal that you want to achieve in a certain time frame. This way, you will always have an inspiration to make every day worthwhile.

Instinct - You should always follow your instincts or your gut feelings. It is not because they are always true but because that is the only way you can feel less guilty if things do not work out well. Decision making is always a difficult task. The longer you think about it, the harder and more frustrating it gets. Therefore, the next time you have to choose among several options, trust your instinct and follow it right away. If it turns out not fine, do not regret so much. Sometimes, wrong decisions can be right at some point.

Money - Money is not the source of happiness but it can be a way for people to be happy. People who claim that they do not need money to be happy are just plain hypocrites. You need money because you need food and shelter. What you do not need is too much money. No matter how much you have in excess, it does not matter. It will all depend on how positively you view things around you and how you react to life's challenges.

Loved Ones - You need others to be happy. What is the point of achieving happiness if you do not have someone to share it with? Treasure your family, your relatives and your friends. You should also treasure new people in your life.
 

12 Simple Ways to Be Happy in Life

Happiness is one of the most sought-after goals in life. Of course, all of us want to be happy and there are many ways to be happy in life - whatever we have, wherever we are and in whatever things we do. Sometimes we tend to be chasing some material things because we think that can make us happy. But as always said, happiness is a choice. It is how we see things.
 
I personally was surprised that simple things such as these can make us happy. We often thought happiness is difficult to achieve because we think happiness is some job promotion, or a game show prize or a brand new car. Indeed, there are simple ways to be happy in life and we tend to forget them.
 
(1)  Be Thankful. Count your blessings. Focus on what you have achieved. Instead of thinking what you want to have in life, make a list or even a mental list of what you already have and be thankful for it. Being appreciative of the blessing you have will tend to attract more of it.
 
(2) Share. Sharing indeed can make a big difference. You can give somebody a little joy by sharing your abilities and what you have and you will feel that happiness in you. Indeed, the joy of giving is one of the good ways to be happy.
 
(3) Stay healthy. It can be difficult to be happy with a sickly body. Having problems with your health can also be the cause of many worries in life. So take care of yourself, take care of your body, eat healthy and enjoy a good health.
 
(4) Get out of debt. Manage your finances. Do not spend more than you can afford.
 
(5) Know how to deal with stress. Stress has been a major part of our lives these days. From a demanding work to stress with family problems - they are all around. But as mentioned, happiness is a choice. Do not let stress overrule your life. Find creative ways to relieve stress. Practice meditation. Practice deep relaxation.
 
(6) Make healthy relationships. Good friendships, healthy marriage and great family are good ways to attain happiness in life. Not everything may be perfect but you can always do something about it. Remember, happiness is a choice.
 
(7) Help others. Volunteer to help others with their needs. This way you get to realize that there are more people who need your attention than being too focused on your selfish goals in life.
 
(8) Exercise. It does not only keep you active but it can also boost your body's natural mood enhancers.
 
(9) Enjoy simple things. Happiness sometimes comes from simple things in life, like having a good time with your pet dog, a flower blooming in your garden or the joys of cooking your favorite recipe.
 
(10) Do what you enjoy. If your passion is writing, spend some time writing. If you love swimming or you enjoy teaching the children, find ways to enjoy your passion.
 
(11) Enjoy good music. Play your favorite musical instrument or enjoy a good dance.
 
(12) Enjoy the pleasures of walking. Smell the fresh scent of the air, take time to enjoy the beauty of flowers or enjoy the rising of the sun while having your morning walk.
 
Indeed, these are simple ways to be happy in life. If you are one of the many people who think happiness is so elusive, think again.

How To Be Happy: Growth and Goals

Positive psychologist Professor Martin Seligmann identified attainment as an area of vital importance when it comes to fulfilling our potential to be happy. Through his studies he discovered that when we foster new skills and focus on working towards meaningful goals, we are directly investing in our psychological resilience and wellbeing.
So it's official: having goals is good for our mental health, and this has been backed up by many subsequent studies. For example a research study of 30,000 people at Melbourne University revealed that the happiest people in the participant sample were those that were actively pursuing their own goals. The goals spanned a wide area: they concerned studies, careers, recreation, relationships, hobbies, health and leisure. The goals included short term, medium term and long term ones. The one thing that the goals did have in common is that they were instrinsic goals. An instrinsic goal is one that holds personal meaning for the person pursuing it. That is to say it is not a goal that has been imposed on them by the expectations of others.
Another study found that people who focus on and actively enjoy the process of working towards their goals gain a greater boost to their psychological wellbeing than those who are concentrating just on getting across the 'finishing line', and not allowing themselves to enjoy the process at all, merely viewing it as a means to an end.
But why are goals so good for us? There are many reasons, here are just three key ones: For one, goals help us master the use of time, when we are pursuing a goal we feel strongly about we develop schedules and become more efficient at using the time that's available to us, rather than wasting time procrastinating or watching too much TV. In this way they bring structure and meaning to our lives. A second reason is goals lead to positive emotion: every step we complete that brings us closer to our goal gives us an emotional boost and a sense of accomplishment. Linked to this, goals increase our confidence in ourselves. As we actively determine what we are doing with our time and energy, we get a sense of our own power. Thirdly, goals can help us through difficult times. When situations beyond our control challenge our emotional wellbeing, our goals gives us a life line - something to hold on to and pull ourselves forward through the difficult period.
If you think you could benefit from a few more active goals in your life, here is a good way five step method you can use. 1. Brainstorm as many instrinsic goals as you can come up with and then pick out the few you are most drawn to. 2. Breakdown the goals in to smaller subgoals, the stepping stones of the journey to get there. 3. Break the sub goals down further into micro goals if needs be. The point it to get the goal into small enough chunks that they are not daunting but enjoyable. 4. Take the very first few sub goals and make a schedule for when you will have achieved them by. Writing the deadlines in your calendar, diary or phone is an important part of this step. Also, remember it is better to start slow and give yourself more time than you need than to feel rushed and fail to meet your deadlines. 5. Pick your mile stones and decide how you will celebrate them. Ask yourself what are the key subgoals that will mark out that you're well on the way to achieving the end goal. Write the reward you'll give yourself (e.g. music, some clothes, a weekend away) at each milestone and don't forget to give it!
Begin your own experiment today to see if the powerful effect of goals on wellbeing holds up as much in your life as it does in the research papers. What would you love to have or become or achieve? Ask yourself this honest question and then sit back and enjoy the journey.

How To Be Happy: The Meaning of Life

In western consumer society, pleasure is elevated as the most vital ingredient to happiness. Pleasure produces positive emotion and undoubtedly positive emotion does have a critical role to play when it comes to our wellbeing.

The positive emotions we experience by engaging in pleasurable, leisure activities such as eating, drinking, shopping or watching films is short lived though. A life that is full of passive leisure and little else would ultimately not be a satisfying one or indeed a happy one, in the broader sense of the word. Why? Because although pleasurable activity can bring positive emotion it does not offer meaning.

To be as happy as we can, we need to seek the meaning in our lives. We do this by living what Aristotle called 'the good life'. Unlike the pleasant life of just leisure, the good life involves knowing what your character strengths are adapting your life so you use them more, and to use them in service of something larger than you are.

When we are working to our strengths we also get to experience flow, which is a state of mindfulness during which we are fully absorbed in the present to the point where 'time stands still'. Some describe being in flow as being at one with what you are doing.

As multiple research studies has shown that living 'a good life' increases life satisfaction and living a 'pleasant life' does not, it is worth learning about our strengths and how they can help us to generate and experience more meaning.

Meaning varies from person to person: what is meaningful to you might mean nothing much to me. But wherever your personal meaning in life might lie, it almost always involves being attached to something bigger than you are. We never find much meaning within our selves alone. It's important to remember too that people usually draw meaning form a number of sources, including religion, hobbies, campaigns, projects, career, family and friends.

A good first step to take if we are seeking to enrich the meaning in our lives is to complete the free VIA strengths survey that you can access on the authentic happiness.org website (which is a great positive psychology resource). This will give you a definite idea of what your signature strengths are, and this will allow you to think of ways that you could use them more.

To conclude: the meaning of life lies in learning about who you uniquely are and then connecting yourself to some bigger pictures, and contribute to them using your natural strengths.

Lean In Women - And Be Happy You Live In the USA

Not long ago I met a woman, a single mom, who has 5-kids, all girls, holy moly indeed. I'd say as a single mom, she's a hell of a role model of perseverance and focus. That's pretty amazing isn't it, and not the kind of work-load you'd want to condemn on your worst enemy. To top it off, this superstar also runs her own business, I'm like OMG, she is making us all look bad, your basic human dynamo you'd say.

Guess what she did with her almost all grown daughters? She took them to India, where they learned about how women in other parts of the world are treated, considered second class citizen almost, especially under the caste system there. What an eye-opener for sure.

She didn't take them to a Muslim Middle Eastern country as a group of Western Women traveling in that situation is, shall we say less than optimal, but I'd say her daughters got a world-class education in "how the other half lives" and how lucky they are to be "Born In the USA" as they say.

No, it's not perfect here, and the glass ceilings are coming down rather nicely, and here in the US we can stand on the moral high ground for that. Hopefully the rest of the world will follow. As much of a challenge as it can be for women in the US, especially in certain professions which are mostly dominated by men, imagine the tough time it would be if you were a woman in some other part of the world.

How about in Saudi Arabia for instance, but that's hardly the only place where life is tough on women. Maybe Sheryl Kara Sandberg is right, maybe it is time to lean in, and lean in hard.

As a competitive track star and runner, one thing my coaches used to tell me is that when you have nothing left, and your legs are toast, you must lean forward and drive with the arms, don't worry, your legs will follow, just lean forward, let gravity help, and drive the point home.

Maybe that's the message we need to tell our young women in the US, that nothing is impossible - tell them they can do it, and lean in against that headwind, let gravity help because the laws of physics are on your side, you can do anything you put your mind too, especially here in the USA where we have a more level playing field, one that is being rebalanced as we speak, now is the time - make it happen.

How to Be Happy Without a Friend

It is possible to agree that everyone needs at least one friend in their lives. Friends are people who support you, lend great opportunities, and spend good and bad times along with you until the very end. However, it is also possible where there is a gap in life which makes you lack friends. Due to departures, friends can get separated from you for their own reasons.

These days, though, the use of technology has improved and solved this main problem we have in the society. The communication between friends seems to become simpler with the use of social network sites and programs which allow users to chat or call to one another with just an internet connection. For some people, the matter that friends come and go is considered normal. However, the temporary lack of friends, or in some cases, the farewell between friends can become a big impact in life.
Dealing with Emotions

The mind serves as the main control of the entire human body. The brain controls human behaviors and emotions according to the influences from the environment. Therefore, if you are capable of controlling your emotions, you can as well control your perspectives.

Sadness, fear, and disappointment will result in negative thoughts and overflowing emotions in people who are not being able to control their feelings and emotions. When a friend has to leave for a college located far away from your neighborhood, don't let your sadness and the fear of loss stop them. Deal with your own personal emotions and let go for their own good. Slowly consider the reasons of their departure before letting your emotions guide how you feel and act. If a friend moves away for their own good, learn to be happy with them as you can always communicate with each other with the use of technology.

Enjoy Yourself

Being alone isn't a bad matter really. The ability to enjoy your own company makes you an independent person. Working alone, reading alone, and eating lunch alone can further make you into a responsible person as you are required to clean your own mess, do your own job, and finish your own deeds.

The efficiency of concentration upon a subject will also be improved when being alone. Just as a person sings solo live, you can as well do things as a solo. By doing things all by yourself and being capable of performing solo activities, higher opportunities may be granted.

Look at Yourself More

When your friends are no longer around, you have more time to groom and look clearly at yourself. Without friends, there are a few to none beings that are brave and trustworthy enough to tell you when your hair is flipped over or even when milk messes up your lips.

Their leave may have tapped your back a little, giving you a sign that improvement on self appearance and awareness is needed. Leaving to the bus station with your untied shoelaces may cause you to trip yourself over and that's a big embarrassment.

With more time alone, look at the mirror before you take your leave and check if everything is alright. Be more independent and confident when you know friends are gone. Learn to cope with your own problems and adapt to specific situations on your own. Once you are capable of doing so, you will be confident and happy all by yourself and even towards others who are around.

How to Be Happy - 7 Secrets For a Happy Life

We all want to be happy, but something always gets in the way. There is never enough time... or money. Somebody is always failing to do what they are "supposed" to do... or not do. Our boss, our spouse, our kids, our parents, our friends, government, big business, whoever... "They" aren't doing it right. "They" failed us. We are angry, and we have a right to be angry. But is that righteous anger making us happy?

Happiness is not something anyone else can give us... or take away from us. Happiness is what we make of our lives... or don't. Whatever our circumstances, we can create a joyful life... or a miserable life. It is up to us.

7 Secrets for a Happy Life

1. Self-Respect: If I don't love and respect myself, who will? It all starts right here with ME. If I think that I'm a pretty good person, it doesn't much matter what anyone else thinks. And the irony is that once I like myself, most everyone else will like me too. People enjoy being around people who speak well of themselves - not in an arrogant boastful way, but with honest self-appreciation.

2. Forgive Everyone for Everything: Angry and happy don't mix. Flush out the angry, and the happy has a place to put down roots. Until we forgive everyone for everything, we hold on to anger and resentment.

Once we forgive, we can become happy. Forgiving is not a gift to someone else - Forgiving is our gift to ourselves - a great gift - the gift of happiness.

3. Be Grateful for All of Life: Each of us has been infinitely blessed - beginning with the gift of life. Whatever may appear to be missing or broken on any particular day, our glass is not half full, it is 99.9% full. More practically, when we feel ungrateful, we become unhappy.

When we choose to feel and express our gratitude, the act of feeling and speaking our thanks creates a happiness within us. The more we express our gratitude, the more we have for which to be grateful. Today and every day, take time to celebrate life - whether an hour's meditation in a quiet natural space, or a brief moment's conscious pause to breathe deeply and celebrate gratitude for life.

4. Choose Happiness: Everything in life is a choice. There is never anything we ever "need" to do. Every action and thought is a choice and has consequences - pleasant or unpleasant.

Whether you go to work today, change jobs, smile at the bank teller, order fried fish, yell at your kids, complain about life, hold a daily celebration of gratitude for life - they are all choices. Happiness is a choice. Stay alert and make conscious choices for happiness.

5. Begin at the End: You can never reach your destination if you don't have a destination. Decide what accomplishments you want recorded on your tombstone. Take a whole quiet day to consider your life. Be very clear that your happiness does NOT depend on reaching your goal.

In fact, it's the reverse. Your happiness depends on accepting whatever life throws at you while you walk the path toward your goal. What is important for your happiness is having a goal, and working toward it.

6. Start Today: Whatever you want in life, start today. Not tomorrow - today. Let it be a small beginning - a tiny beginning. Your happiness depends on starting today - every day.

7. Life is NOT "Supposed to be Fair": Know that there is no single way that life is "supposed" to be. Demanding that life meet our expectations is a sure fire recipe for a miserable existence. Life is a game with no rules. Life just happens to us regardless of our best intentions.

Our only path to happiness lies in being open to receiving whatever life throws at us - with Gratitude. Have NO Expectations of life.

Jonathan Lockwood Huie has been dubbed "The Philosopher of Happiness" by those closest to him, in recognition of his his on-going commitment to seeing Joy in all of life. Jonathan's intention is to share his insights for Joyful Living with the widest possible audience.

How Did I Get This Way?

I wanted to break a cycle of abuse, selfishness, controlling behavior, pride, and arrogance/authority from my life. Which led me to think a lot about why people do the things they do and what's the right way to go. Those thoughts are what you read as postings now.

When my daughter was born, it became even more important to me to remove all the negative and hurtful behaviors from our life. I wanted better for her. I wanted her to walk in love and light, so to speak.

I'm not anything special. I'm a people - just like everybody. It just really mattered to me to end the cycle of pain and it's been a quest I've continued my whole life.

Where does love begin? Where does pain and hurt begin? Can a person be both loving and hurtful in the same space in their life? What motivates pain? What motivates hurting? How do we stop it? How do we make it right when we can't stop it?

While others around me were complaining about how dark an scary an unsafe the world was getting, I continue my personal quest to remove all that dark and scary from my own personal space.

What I've discovered is the lessons apply to everything. We all have the capacity to act each way. We all have the capacity to choose. We can refuse to accept responsibility for our choice and just say oh that's just me and I can't fix that in my life. Or we can face the ugly in each one of us and spend some time there and make it a priority - I want those gunkies out of here!!!

When my daughter was in high school I divorced and t was just her and I again. By then she was old enough to decide for herself, so i explained what I'd been working on my whole life.

The family I grew up in had some really bad behavior traits. But behaviors are learned and anything learned can be unlearned. I don't know if I can accomplish it in my life, but I want those bad traits to end so I'm working on overcoming them. You have fewer of them than I do. I hope your kids have even fewer in them. If we keep trying then one day our family line won't have any!!! We'd be free to live and love and be generous and kind without fearing and hiding all the time.

She liked the idea and said she wanted to work with me on it. She also agreed to continue the quest with her own kids when they come along.

We drew close have long philosophical discussions around why we react a certain way and where was it learned, how did we learn that? How do we fix that? How will she teach it to her kids? And bit by bit we challenged and changed and grew and overcame.

It's been 7 years since the divorce and our talk. We decided it was time to start the website and coaching company to see if anyone else could benefit from what we've come to know.

You don't have to have pain, selfishness, manipulation, abuse, controlling behavior, bad finances, rudeness, yelling, or any of those kinds of things in your life. And if you do, they don't have to hurt you. You can get through.

That's our legacy. We're giving while we continue growing because generosity should be part of everything, not just at the end of the journey.

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What Does It Take For A Woman To Be Happy? - Inspiring Insight For Your Soul and Spirit!

What does it take to make a woman happy? The same thing that it takes to make a man happy! Someone asked me the question, "What is it that you want and need to be happy in life?" My response was "To know and to live my purpose". Whether you are a man or a woman, a sense of purpose and meaning for living can contribute significantly to one's happiness.

Recently a close friend decided to take a risk and pursue her heart's desire to start her own business. She had worked unhappily in her profession for many years, but recently lost her job to downsizing.

Now armed with the expertise and the faith to follow her dream, she exuded a new confidence and enthusiasm I hadn't seen in her for a long time. Unfortunately, not everyone in her life was excited about her decision. Often those who are closest to you discourage, rather than encourage you. Usually, upon closer examination, one finds that the strongest discouragers are the ones who benefit most from where you are in life right now.

If you are not watchful, you will find that others connected to you can sway a heavy arm of influence on what you do with your time and talents. It is up to you to determine what it is that you want and need to be happy. Knowing and living your purpose is the greatest contributor to being happy in life because happiness is not externally generated, but internally motivated.

Nobody can fulfill your purpose, except you and sometimes it takes something uncomfortable to initiate positive change in our lives. When people choose to follow their hearts and stop expecting others to fulfill their needs, happiness shows up. That's true for women and men!

Gloria Thomas Anderson, MSW

Columnist of: Inspiring Insights For Your Soul and Spirit!

Inspiring hearts. Encouraging souls.

© 2006 Heart Tones

Gloria Thomas Anderson, MSW, is a motivational speaker and writer, a diversity trainer, and a professional social worker who inspires others to harness the power within themselves to create positive change in their lives. Gloria has shared her wisdom and insight on real life issues--Purpose, Relationships, and Spirituality--with hundreds of organizations and groups, including the Fellowship of Professional Women, The Executive Women in Government, Women that Soar, Women's Aglow, and Training For Excellence, Inc.

Her publication, "What Y'all Gon' Do With Me?-The African-American Spiritual and Ethical Guide to End of Life Care" was recently presented at the International First North American Spirituality and Social Work Conference, in Waterloo, Canada and published in "The Society for Spirituality and Social Work Forum". She has also received several awards and grants toward her research. Gloria is the author of the popular self-help book, Passion For Your Purpose--Discovering Peace, Direction and Balance In Your Life and columnist of Inspiring Insights For Your Soul and Spirit!

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How To Be Really Happy Forever

Everyone wants to be happy, but happiness depends on many factors.

Many people believe that money brings happiness, because if they can pay and fulfil all their desires they imagine that they will be happy forever. However, money is only a facility. It cannot buy health, love and peace.

If you are sick, alone, in a war, dominated by craziness and despair, money cannot save you. It can help you find famed doctors, or paid lovers, or a false peace based on the threat of weapons, but everything you can get by paying is only an illusion. You need much more in order to feel really satisfied.

If you want to be really happy forever you have to change the world, bringing peace, abundance and happiness to Earth, besides helping humanity cultivate love, patience, goodness and humility in its heart.
You have to put an end to craziness, terrorism and despair.

If you cannot transform everything, you will never be completely happy.

So, you have either to accept to live in a crazy world full of violence and absurdity, trying to be happy on your "personal island", where only your family and your friends have importance for you, or you have to transform this crazy world into a place where everyone will have the chance to be happy, otherwise you will never be really happy too.

This is a selfish thought, but I know that you are very selfish from birth - this is why I'm explaining the truth to you in terms you can understand. You would never care for the world's pain if it didn't affect you.
I notice that each time I write an article about general happiness and the necessity to change the world so that everyone will at least have the basic conditions of life besides many things more, only a few people read my articles.

However, when I give lessons about their personal lives and how they can overcome their problems, those articles are the most often viewed.

Yes, nobody cares for the entire world. Nobody really cares for humanity.

Everyone only wants to live well, without working and only having fun. This is the ideal scenario, even though they know that things cannot be this way and they get adapted to the reality of their lives. However, their philosophy of life is the above mentioned, without a doubt.

You probably are not an exception...

Are you?

I really hope that you are, because some people are exceptions, even though they are quite rare. You will find one sensitive person that cares for the well being of the entire world, among billions and billions of alienated creatures that care only about their personal lives...

However, the truth is that the desire to be happy in such world the way it is now, with so many horrors, is in fact a crazy desire.

Don't you agree that only crazy creatures would try to be happy in a place where violence, terrorism, immorality, hypocrisy, poverty and other horrors exist?

I'm sure you do, if you are sensible. But you don't know how to change the crazy world, and you have no power...

At this point you need a miracle. And only because the miracle does exist, have I started explaining the truth in this way, otherwise I would not start showing you how absurd it is to want to be happy in a place where craziness prevails, because I would have to abandon you totally disappointed at the end of this article, while my intention is to help you solve your problems.

The miracle is inside you and sends you dreams with warnings, lessons and free psychotherapy everyday. It is the wise and saintly unconscious mind, that tries to save the human side of your conscience from the wild, primitive side that is responsible for the existence of craziness in the human mind.

If you follow the guidance you receive in your dreams, the unconscious mind will show you how you can transform your psyche, develop your personality and become a self-confident genius, so that you may be able to solve all the problems of the world, not only thanks to your intelligence, but thanks to your sensitivity and the superiority of your spirit.

Prevent Depression and Craziness through the scientific method of Dream Interpretation discovered by Carl Jung and simplified by Christina Sponias, a writer who continued Jung's research in the unknown region of the human psychic sphere.

Why It Is Important To Be Happy

 

The simple answer to this question is because it is not worth to remain moody or sad. An answer based on biological observations would be happiness trigger the production of vital hormones in the body that is crucial for overall health and metabolism. Another worthy reply to this query is happiness brings in a positive and stable mental frame of mind. But, whichever concept you endorse upon, one aspect is quite clear, being happy is many times more worthy than letting the negative emotions build in yourself.

Realistically enough, we all live in a world amidst so much of unlucky people, poverty, violence, stress, competition, and all sorts of sadness inducing environment you can think of. So it is only natural that a part of our mind always tends to carry a tinge of sadness or lean towards this negative emotion often because the natural momentum is acting in that direction.

But, being sad could leave more than a profound impact on the human body as far as its overall health is concerned. As per the latest medical researches, most cases of depression, stress, apnea, migraine, and many other diseases have its roots in the sad frame of mind.

Even the specialists treat these conditions say, one of the best medicines for these diseases are happiness, laughter and relaxation. Need any more proof to believe that it is important to be happy?

From you, the common man out there, the only possible way out of this mess is to make a mental effort by yourself - to muster the drive and power - in order to trudge your way back to happiness.

Learn to focus on better and positive things when sadness sets in, and try to convince oneself that you are still lucky and well placed than many others living in this world. Make it a habit to smile even in adversities, and avoid being alone. That is, always try to be in the company of others or engage yourself in activities that interest you to the core. Never ever let the mind wander idle.

Finally, if you are convinced that you are not able to shrug of the element of sadness fully, consider consulting a psychologist. If there is any case of a budding depression, then earlier medical intervention could set things straight. In short, try every possible step to fight off sadness, mentally or medically, whichever is required. Because, it is really important to be happy! The stakes are that high.

John Khu is an experience entrepreneur and internet marketer. He specializes in communication development and personal happiness.