Changing your life is hard. It's really hard. I mean, surprisingly hard.
For anyone that has tried to make some major changes in their life because they couldn't handle living in the same way any more, you've probably experienced the growing pains that come together with deciding to live in another way. You are consistently tested, you fail time and time again, and it's very difficult to see the world in the light of cheerfulness.
It doesn't necessarily demand to be that way.
You see, folk struggle with deep change because they don't know the proper way to act when the negative emotions start bubbling up. They suspect that because negativity is occuring that they've got to be doing it all wrong. No! Not in any way. In reality if you are struggling and it hurts a little, you're doing things right. Fundamentally, you are growing. You're moving past your comfort zone.
When you're going through large changes, you're going to come across some important problems. Discomfort is going to come out to play, your inner critic is going to run free, and you are going to have some struggles. That is fantasically ok! That actually means you are heading in the correct direction. Don't quit now when you are really in pain. Keep going and see it all the way through and you will cross the finish line a transformed person.
The "Frying Pan Of Life" is all about the best way to get near enough to the discomfort to work with it without being consumed by it. When you are creating a new life, old things really tend to flow out and you have got to spend some time working with them. This is a natural part of the growing process. But you've got to work with them because if you fail to, you run the risk of allowing the past to sabotage your dreams.
So how does one do this?
You have to get sufficiently close to the discomfort and experience it without getting totally consumed by it. You have to be pleased to bring yourself to the unpleasant places and let the thoughts and emotions swirl around you without taking you completely out of the game. When that can be done, you give yourself access to the lessons and light that are held within that dark place.
This takes some skill and plenty of practice, but if you can actually spend a while working in these dark areas with some compassion and love, you can defrost even the coldest of hearts.
For anyone that has tried to make some major changes in their life because they couldn't handle living in the same way any more, you've probably experienced the growing pains that come together with deciding to live in another way. You are consistently tested, you fail time and time again, and it's very difficult to see the world in the light of cheerfulness.
It doesn't necessarily demand to be that way.
You see, folk struggle with deep change because they don't know the proper way to act when the negative emotions start bubbling up. They suspect that because negativity is occuring that they've got to be doing it all wrong. No! Not in any way. In reality if you are struggling and it hurts a little, you're doing things right. Fundamentally, you are growing. You're moving past your comfort zone.
When you're going through large changes, you're going to come across some important problems. Discomfort is going to come out to play, your inner critic is going to run free, and you are going to have some struggles. That is fantasically ok! That actually means you are heading in the correct direction. Don't quit now when you are really in pain. Keep going and see it all the way through and you will cross the finish line a transformed person.
The "Frying Pan Of Life" is all about the best way to get near enough to the discomfort to work with it without being consumed by it. When you are creating a new life, old things really tend to flow out and you have got to spend some time working with them. This is a natural part of the growing process. But you've got to work with them because if you fail to, you run the risk of allowing the past to sabotage your dreams.
So how does one do this?
You have to get sufficiently close to the discomfort and experience it without getting totally consumed by it. You have to be pleased to bring yourself to the unpleasant places and let the thoughts and emotions swirl around you without taking you completely out of the game. When that can be done, you give yourself access to the lessons and light that are held within that dark place.
This takes some skill and plenty of practice, but if you can actually spend a while working in these dark areas with some compassion and love, you can defrost even the coldest of hearts.
About the Author:
Evan Sanders is the author of The Words Of Encouragement, a website dedicated to bringing the best quotes, motivational content on the web, and blogs all to one place. Feeling ready to take the journey of your life? Dive into these life goes on quotes for some wise words on what it means to live honestly.
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